EFT (or Emotionally Focused Therapy) walks couples through a de-escalation process, but what sets EFT apart is Stage Two. The second stage of EFT focuses not on \u201cwhat\u2019s wrong\u201d but on making things right in the relationship.\n Laurie and George celebrate as Laurie becomes certified in EFT and both thank Dr. Sue Johnson for the amazing gift of this therapy model!\n In sex therapy, we discuss emotional patterns, but we also understand the interdependency between sex and emotions. One isn\u2019t more important than the other, and when leveraging patterns to create lasting change, the sexual cycle can\u2019t be ignored.\n When the sexual pursuer learns to communicate from a place of vulnerability, the withdrawer feels a release of pressure that allows them to draw closer to the pursuer, which is ultimately what they both want...\n In stage two, couples learn to replace the negative cycle with a positive cycle. They create \u201cnew moves.\u201d The \u201cnew move\u201d script in this episode is about compassionately sharing and accepting each other\u2019s needs. By integrating these new moves into your relationship through better communication, you can continue to grow in sex and love\u2026\n Listen as Laurie & George talk you through a success script for addressing the sexual/emotional cycles in your relationship!\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices