I first \u201cmet\u201d writer Susan Piver when I read her book, \u201cThe Hard Questions: 100 Questions to Ask Before You Say \u2018I Do\u2019\u201d which I recommend as an excellent guidebook for talking with your significant other before taking that big step. Later, I learned that she was a Buddhist and a meditation teacher, and I had the opportunity to spend some time with her in person at a retreat center. But don\u2019t assume that her whole life has been blissful and super-chill -- she\u2019s got some stories to tell.