133: FIVE WAYS to be POSITIVE Around NEGATIVE People

Published: May 18, 2017, 8 a.m.

Confession time. Not that long ago, there was a lot of negativity in my life. For some of you this may be hard to believe, but it\u2019s true. I had a ton of toxic friends/relationships in my life and looking back now, I can\u2019t believe I put up with that negativity as long as I did. Some of it was because I failed to set boundaries. Another part was that I tended to take on other people\u2019s \u201cstuff\u201d and carry it as my own. I soon learned, however, that\n \u201cYou can only control what you can control \u2013 and that is YOU.\u201d\n I knew that for the sake of my own happiness, I needed to grab the reins and take charge. Here are the five things that help set me on the path to positivity:\n 1. Know what you can control.\n 2. Ask yourself, \u201cWhat is the most beneficial reaction I can have for myself (while still being compassionate).\n 3. Be compassionate.\n 4. {Not for the weak.} Call the negative person out.\n 5. Understand that the person (or your situation) may not change.\n Does practicing all five of these things guarantee zero negativity in your life? Not by a long shot \u2013 there\u2019s always going to be some amount of negativity in your life. It\u2019s on the street, it\u2019s on the Internet and sometimes, there are people in our lives that we can\u2019t completely cut ties with. If it\u2019s important to you and your happiness, you must start to focus your free time in a more positive place.\n \u201cIf you want to change, you will. If you don\u2019t, you won\u2019t.\u201d\n Go to the places that will bring you joy. Spend time with the people who \u201cget\u201d you. And DO the things that help lift you up. Some days will be more difficult than others, but it\u2019s up to you to keep your head and heart in a positive place.\n In This Episode You Will Learn About: Negativity\n Positivity\n Boundaries\n Control\n Change\n Community\n Tribe\n Resources The Bliss Habit\n Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com