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Published: July 22, 2024, 5:35 a.m.

I love Kirk\u2019s realistic approach to parenting. He understands what your home dynamics are like. And gives practical tips. After listening to today\u2019s episode you will have at least three different \u201ctricks\u201d to apply.
\nMost of all, I\u2019m thankful for the new perspective he has given me. Kirk helped me recognize how emotionally invested I was in my boys\u2019 behavior and freed me from the need to regulate their behavior for them.
\nThe last couple days I\u2019ve enjoyed the boys more. I\u2019m also less tense and frustrated when we are out in public. In fact, I may need to go back and listen to this episode more than once, so it sticks!
\nThis episode originally aired in May of 2015
\nKirk came back on the show multiple times. Check out additional episodes here.
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• Kirk\u2019s realization that he needed to focus on his own behavior and stop trying to fix his son\u2019s strong-willed behavior.
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• The switch he made from training 1500 kids in his home to training parents to calm themselves.
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• The one thing you can do today to de-escalate a tense situation in your home.
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• How to calmly handle your child\u2019s meltdown
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\nI can only control one person in life, and that\u2019s me.
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• How motion changes emotion\u2013helping little ones calm down b/c they don\u2019t know how to \u201cthink\u201d their way out.
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• What to do in the middle of Target aisle 3 when your child freaks out
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• Handling a tantruming child when his siblings are fighting and another needs help with homework and dinner is cooking (Heather\u2019s daily 5 pm reality).
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\nIf you don\u2019t care enough about yourself, to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually. . .why would anyone else care?
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• How sometimes parents want good behavior so badly, they are too invested in it and give children too much control.
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• How to be an impartial giver of wisdom.
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• Write down your emotional triggers & do the opposite of what you normally do.
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\nConnect with Kirk:
\nSite :: Twitter :: Facebook :: Podcast
\nLinks Mentioned:\n

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• CDs/DVDs
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• 888-506-1871\u2013Toll Free Number for Frustrated Parents
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\nSummer of Mentorship Discussion Questions:\xa0\n

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• Discuss Kirk\u2019s realization that he needed to focus on his own behavior and stop trying to fix his son\u2019s strong-willed behavior.
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• If you struggle to stay calm when your kids are out of control, what are some of your triggers?\xa0
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• Which of Kirk\u2019s ideas to de-escalate a situation is most realistic for you? Thinking about how motion changes emotion.
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• How did you react to Kirk\u2019s idea of being an \u201cimpartial giver of wisdom\u201d instead of being so invested in how your kids behave?\xa0
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• Spend some time working through a part of your day that is most challenging or a situation with a particular child and brainstorm ways you could respond differently. Share with others in the group and get their ideas if you are willing.\xa0
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