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For the first part of our 2018 Don\\u2019t Mom Alone live event, Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of\\xa0Connected Families,\\xa0joined me & my husband Bruce to answer listener questions about discipline and how to use their framework for biblically-based parenting.

We share lots of stories of how we have failed as parents and learned along the way.

But then I started to realize maybe my humility was my greatest currency for influence to help her learn the lessons and the values and the things that mattered most\\u2026 Our kids need to know we\\u2019re not perfect. They need to know that we\\u2019ll come back to them and say, \\u2018Hey I blew it. I\\u2019m sorry. Would you forgive me?\\u2019 And get back to reconciliation in those relationships. \\u2014 Jim Jackson.

So good!

Jim and Lynne talk us through the\\xa0parenting framework\\xa0they\\u2019ve developed and redefining how we view discipline with our kids. Ultimately, it comes down to connecting with their hearts and leading them to Jesus instead of trying to control their behavior.

We can help kids embrace the wisdom of the righteous. And that really prepares the way for the Lord to come in our family in a strong way. Because in today\\u2019s day and age with all the craziness that\\u2019s going on, these kids need a form of discipline that\\u2019s not just about punitive correction but that\\u2019s about a whole way of life that teaches our kids how to be followers of Jesus. \\u2014 Lynne Jackson

And it\\u2019s not just vision for how we want to parent, the Jacksons also share some super practical tips and give us some ways to respond to our defiant, strong-willed or sensitive kids.

What we chat about:

• The basis for Jim and Lynn\\u2019s parenting framework
• How do you parent proactively instead of reactively when you feel like you\\u2019re just surviving minute
• What is our goal in parenting? Is it immediate obedience from our children or fostering their ability to make wise choices?
• Bringing God\\u2019s grace into our messy moments
• Why connecting with God is so essential to how we parent
• Go into a situation asking, \\u201cLord, what is the opportunity here?\\u201d
• Helping our kids build wisdom instead of feeling the need to express our disappointment when they mess up
• Trusting that our kids really want to do better
• Separating behavior from identity in our kids
• Humility and apologizing well may be our greatest currency as a parent
• The idea of a parent do-over
• Tips for parents of younger kids and encouragement for parenting kids who bite or hit
• We tend to think of behavior as either all good or all bad
• When our goal is to control their behavior, it doesn\\u2019t build trust
• You don\\u2019t have to be mean to be strong as a parent
• Big, loud, and loving energy can make a big difference in the middle of conflict
• Luke 1:17- \\u201cAnd he will go on before the Lord, in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the disobedient\\xa0to the wisdom of the righteous\\u2014to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.\\u201d
• Strong-willed kids and the importance of calling out their giftings and how God made them
• Sometimes it\\u2019s sensitive and intense children are labeled as strong-willed
• Psalm 73:21-24 \\u201cWhen my heart was grieved and my spirit embittered, I was senseless and ignorant; I was a brute beast before you. Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory.\\u201d

Links Mentioned:

• Previous Episodes with Jim & Lynne \\u2014\\xa0Ep 80\\xa0,\\xa0Ep 81,\\xa0Ep 98,\\xa0Ep 200,\\xa0Bonus Sibling Conflict\\n
• Connected Families Blog Post \\u2014 It\\u2019s Not Defiance, It\\u2019s Science\\xa0
• Connected Families Blog post- Danger, Obedience, and Teaching Kids Traffic Safety