Podcasts Education Self-Improvement Crystal Paine Show 194. 6 Lessons We've Learned from 20 Years of Marriage

194. 6 Lessons We've Learned from 20 Years of Marriage

Published: Jan. 17, 2023, noon

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Jesse and I celebrated a milestone anniversary recently \\u2013 twenty years of marriage! In some ways, it feels like it hasn\\u2019t been that long, and in other ways, it feels like we have been married even longer than that, and we thought that we spend today discussing the biggest lessons that we have learned over the past two decades.

The last few years have stretched us more than ever. Walking through foster care licensing, fostering 6 precious kids of differing ages, saying goodbye to the beautiful boy C who stole our hearts for 8 1/2 months, continuing to love and walk with his mama and be involved in his life for the past two years, saying yes to David and being thrust into the world of special needs and medical complexities, countless doctor\\u2019s appointments and therapies, many scary medical moments, surgeries, saying yes to adoption, having a senior and walking through all the college stuff and preparing to launch a child, saying yes to our daughter dating, countless sporting events, two miracle pregnancies, so many nighttime wake-ups with three little ones\\u2026 life is full and never dull.

There are constantly opportunities to trust the Lord and work together. Some days we do it better than others.

Having three teenagers and three little ones and a full-time business from our home is always an adventure. Every day requires organization, communication, adaptability, creativity, flexibility, and patience.

We have our moments when we are really irritated and annoyed with each other, but we\\u2019ve learned more and more that it\\u2019s worth it to fight for our marriage and for each other instead of just fighting to be right or to prove the other person wrong.

Some days we are tired. Some days we wonder how it\\u2019s all going to work out. Some days we miscommunicate.

But we keep choosing each other. We keep choosing to love, even on the days when we don\\u2019t feel like it or when it\\u2019s hard or when there are tensions.

A few things w\\u2019ve learned in the last 20 years:

Say I love you often.

Go out of your way to make each other laugh.

Give your spouse time and space to do things that they love and that bring them life.

Flirt every day.

Find the good and call it out.

A strong marriage doesn\\u2019t just happen, but it\\u2019s so worth the time, intention, & sacrifice.

Happy 20th anniversary, Jesse! Thank you for continuing to choose me and love me \\u2014 even on the hard days! I\\u2019d marry you all over again! I love you so much!

In This Episode

[00:35] \\u2013 We recently celebrated a milestone anniversary.

[01:56] \\u2013 We are sharing lessons we\\u2019ve learned in twenty years of marriage.

[02:22] \\u2013 Don\\u2019t believe everything you dream.

[04:09] \\u2013 I just finished listening to the audiobook\\xa0The Book Woman of Troublesome Creek.

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[08:09] \\u2013 What\\u2019s saving my life this week?

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[13:14] \\u2013 I have learned to tell Jesse that I love him often.

[15:43] \\u2013 Jesse defines love as commitment, action, and feeling.

[16:00] \\u2013 We have learned to go out of our ways to make each other laugh.

[16:59] \\u2013 Give your spouse time to do things that they love.

[20:36] \\u2013 We flirt every day.

[22:44] \\u2013 Be cognizant of the good, and be grateful.

[23:44] \\u2013 A strong marriage doesn\\u2019t just happen on its own.

[26:37] \\u2013 Any\\xa0strong relationship requires work and sacrifice.

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