55. Birkenstocks and Box Braids (Part II)

Published: Dec. 20, 2021, 6 a.m.

On this week\u2019s episode, Chatrice and Luis continue the conversation about interracial dating. Before the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time Luis has been making new friends and Chatrice has been juggling work and putting together a \u201cCookies & Cocktails\u201d party for the holidays. On the main topic our hosts talk through the interracil dating advice tips from Christine Forbes\u2019s article \u201c5 Interracial Couples Share Advice on Being in an Interracial Relationship\u2014Especially Now\u201d.

Time Stamps

0:14 - Hello and Welcome 

1:00 - Hosts check-in

13:36 - What holidays are we celebrating this week? National Covered Anything in Chocolate Day and National Wreaths Across America Day 

17:26 - Shout out for the Culture: Nicole Byer\u2019s Netflix Special \u201cBig Beautiful Weirdo\u201d is available; Iss Rae cast to voice Spider-Woman in Into the Spiderverse sequel which is out October 2022; Natasha Rothwell is profiled in LA Times, we learn about the deal she has with ABC through her production company and learn she was the first writer cast on Insecure; Black Fetus illustration by @/ebereillustrate on Instagram

31:42 - Main Topic: Interracial Dating, part II conversation

32:59 - Article: \u201c5 Interracial Couples Share Advice on Being in an Interracial Relationship\u2014Especially Now\u201d by Christine Forbes

34:01 - Interracial Dating Advice #1: Do Not Fetish Your Partner

38:36 - AUDIO CLIP

39:26 - White men in Black fraternities

41:07 - Is it a fetish for white men to be in Black fraternities

42:10 - Interracial Dating Advice #2: Establish respect before you start dating

46:22 - Luis thought they would end up with someone who is exactly like them in many ways

47:22 - Interracial Dating Advice #3: Every critque is not an attack, prepare to learn

49:53 - Rooted in ego, look past yourself to help someonune underrstand and learn where they are coming from

51:45 - Interracial Dating Advice #4: Be open to new experiences 

1:00:10 - Feeling safety in relationship in order to try new things (Audio Clip)

1:01:14 - Interracial Dating Advice #5: Protect your partner by addressing racism and transphobia when it happens

1:05:10 - \u201cYou have to be ready to defend me as a Black woman if s\u2014t pops off\u201d - Chatrice

1:10:34 - Takeaways from episode

1:10:46 - For Luis: how to stand up for your partner; every disagreement is not an attack on you

1:12:20 - Is difference a red flag? What about different personalities, world views, etc. between two people, does it mean it won\u2019t work?

1:13:38 - For Chatrice: being someone\u2019s partner, wanting your partner to learn and being with them on the journey, not having to explain a lot of things and for it to be taxing 

1:16:26 - End of episode


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