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Defensiveness in Relationships: Why Does it Happen, Why is it so Bad and What can we do About it? (Gottman's second Horseman of the Apocalypse)

Published: Oct. 4, 2021, 5 a.m.

Dan and Caitlin discuss the second of the Gottman Institute's 4 Horsemen: Defensiveness.

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Do you find in your relationship that whenever one of you bring up an issue, the other person gets immediately defensive and either shuts down or goes on the attack? This is a common issue, and one that can lead to much worse dynamics in the future if it's not addressed. The good news is, though, that there is an antidote and ways to change this pattern!

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Listen for some great info and examples