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Get Everything Spring Sale: You get everything we have ever recorded delivered directly to an app on your iPhone, iPad, Android, or computer. Listen anywhere, anytime. You receive 35 hours of practical strategies and concrete examples, along with multiple PDF workbooks. Click here to learn more: https://celebratecalm.com/calm-2022/\nWant to talk with Kirk directly and come up with a game plan for your family? Kirk will work with you individually, or together with your spouse, to get you on the same page and help with the toughest parenting situations you haven\u2019t been able to solve. These calls are a game-changer. \xa0Click here to learn about mentoring packages.\xa0\nWant to book a LIVE EVENT in 2022?! We are now booking IN PERSON and Zoom events for schools, PTAs, churches, synagogues, corporations, and agencies! Simply email Casey@CelebrateCalm with LIVE in the subject line and he'll share a one-page proposal within hours. It's EASY!\xa0\nQuestions? Need help deciding on the best tools for your family? Email Casey@CelebrateCalm.com and Casey will help you personally!\nAbbreviated Transcript\nDo you have\xa0a relentless arguer?\xa0A kid who always has to prove his point, so relentless that he ends up yelling, being disrespectful, and getting in trouble because he just can\u2019t stop?\nMost of our discipline is more about our own frustration and threatening consequences, but it never changes anything. Instead, look at these situations as opportunities to teach your child new skills and build a closer relationship.\nSo let\u2019s say your child demands that you take him somewhere.\xa0\u201cThat\u2019s not happening this afternoon\u201d or a simple, \u201cNo\u201d said in an even tone is much better than trying to explain yourself or convince your child why you are right.\nBut your child doesn\u2019t take no for an answer\xa0(great quality for a salesperson!). So he\u2019s going to come after you. You\u2019ll go to your bedroom, double lock the door, and he\u2019ll climb through the second floor window because he\u2019s persistent! So let\u2019s use this as an opportunity.\n\u201cSon, I have seen this movie scene unfold in our home 63 times this month.\xa0When I say no, you are persistent and argue using your great critical thinking skills. But the scene always ends with you saying disrespectful things, losing your video game time, and in tears. So here are your two options now:\n1) \u201cYou may continue arguing, but it\u2019s not going to end the way you want.\xa0But here\u2019s another option you may like better.\xa0\n2) \u201cI admire your persistence and critical thinking skills.\xa0Those qualities will serve you well in life, and especially in sales. I also know you have a big heart and you love making money. So here\u2019s a way that you can rewrite the ending to this movie scene.\n\u201cI need to go get started on dinner/laundry. When you\u2019re ready,\xa0if you come join me (creates movement and space, with an invitation to problem solve), I bet we can brainstorm three different ways for you to earn money in this neighborhood. That way, you get to use all your great qualities to earn money, pay for your own games, and even donate some money to charity. Give that some thought.\u201d\nThis gives your child time to think and process the disappointment,\xa0but it also gives him an out, another option that he has some ownership/control of.\xa0\nThere's no berating the child: "Why do you ALWAYS argue about everything?\xa0Why aren\u2019t you EVER grateful?" Those are words of frustration from parents that solve nothing and shame the child. That has become your pattern or habit: child messes up, you yell or give consequences.\nBut now you are now TEACHING instead of SHAMING,\xa0showing your child another way, seeing the good traits in the midst of meltdowns.\xa0\nTHIS will become your new habit, your new pattern.\xa0As you listen to the Get Everything Package on the new app, THIS will become your new automatic response. You\u2019ll break those old negative reactions and begin responding in a way that builds your child\u2019s confidence AND your relationship.\n\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices