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We\u2019ve spent a lot of time on the podcast exploring how we can improve our skills in romantic relationships, but for many people one of the most difficult parts of a relationship is getting into one in the first place.\xa0\nOn this episode, Forrest talks with Logan Ury, Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, about the psychology of dating. They explore chemistry, romance, apps, and how to reframe our self-limiting tendencies so we can find love that is fulfilling and brings out the best in us.\nAbout our Guest: Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of\xa0 How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She is the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, and former head of Google\u2019s behavioral science team the Irrational Lab.\nWatch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You\xa0can watch this episode on YouTube.\nKey Topics:\n0:00: Introduction\xa0\xa0\n1:40: Why is modern dating so hard?\n4:15: Romanticism\n6:20: Being in a relationship for self-actualization\n8:25: Romanticizers, Maximizers, and Hesitators\n11:15: Reframes for the Romanticizer\n14:20: What kind of shared qualities actually matter?\n19:25: Reframes for the Maximizer\n26:35: The tendency to externalize problems and avoid vulnerability\n32:25: Reframes for the Hesitator\n36:50: Information vs. emotion - appreciation for romance\n41:05: Bids, and turning towards\n43:05: What other things do people tend to underestimate in relationships?\n47:20: The aspect of you that is brought out by your partner\n48:45: How to use apps in more effective ways\n51:00: Recap\nSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.\nHave a question for us?\xa0\nEmail: contact@beingwellpodcast.com to submit questions or potential topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes.\nSponsors:\nVisit Pendulumlife.com and use code BEINGWELL for 20% off your first month of membership.\nJoin over a million people using BetterHelp, the world\u2019s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!\nWant to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.\nConnect with the show:\n\nSubscribe on iTunes\n\nFollow Forrest on YouTube\n\nFollow us on Instagram\n\nFollow Forrest on Instagram\n\nFollow Rick on Facebook\n\nFollow Forrest on Facebook\n\nVisit Forrest's website