Learning When to Let Go

Published: July 12, 2021, 10 a.m.

Most personal growth content out there suggests having a "never give up" mindset. But the truth is that a big part of life is deciding when it's time to stop investing our limited effort into that job, skill, or relationship that's no longer serving you.\xa0\nToday Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest explore how to determine when it's time for things to end, dealing with disappointment, giving ourselves credit for our good efforts, and getting excited about what's to come.\nSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.\nWatch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You \xa0can watch this episode on YouTube.\nKey Topics:\n0:00: Introduction\n2:15: Being sure you\u2019re not ending too soon.\n4:50: Improving distress tolerance vs. protecting yourself.\n9:50: Trusting the past.\xa0\n13:30: What keeps people stuck: sunk cost fallacy.\n14:30: The longing for a just world.\n16:50: Dealing with disappointment.\n22:00: Optimism, and turning toward the future.\n24:30: Understanding the limitations of our environment.\xa0\n27:15: Redefining success.\xa0\n30:05: Knowing you gave things your best effort.\xa0\n32:00: Impulsivity.\n33:30: Unilateral virtue.\n37:30: Finding your five.\n39:30: Helping other people feel heard.\xa0\n42:45: Being clear about the \u201clast chance.\u201d\n45:30: The fear of change, and turning toward the future.\n52:45: Recap.\nSponsors:\nFrom Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code\xa0BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need.\xa0\nJoin\xa0over a million people using BetterHelp, the world\u2019s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!\xa0\nWant to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.\nStart a new healthy habit with Seed! Visit seed.com/beingwell and use code BEINGWELL to get 20% off your first month of Seed\u2019s Daily Synbiotic.\nConnect with the show:\n\nFollow Forrest on YouTube\n\nFollow us on Instagram\n\nFollow Rick on Facebook\n\nFollow Forrest on Facebook\n\nSubscribe on iTunes