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On one of our favorite episodes of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by author and therapist Terry Real to talk about how to overcome the myth of toxic individualism, break trauma cycles, and experience real intimacy in our relationships.\n\xa0They discuss how to balance acceptance and agency, develop a healthy sense of trust and self-esteem, communicate what we want effectively, and experience our power through collaboration rather than dominance. Terry describes how we can move past the delusions of toxic individualism and patriarchy that plague our culture, moving away from \u2018me vs. you\u2019 and into Us.\nAbout our Guest: Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and bestselling author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute, which offers workshops for couples as well as professional training for clinicians in his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) methodology. His latest book is Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship which comes out June 7th.\nWatch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You\xa0can watch this episode on YouTube.\nKey Topics:\n0:00: Introduction\n1:45: Terry\u2019s personal transformation\n4:55: Regulating up to our parents\n7:05: The Adaptive Child vs. the Wise Adult\n14:25: Us vs. the delusions of individualism and patriarchy\n18:05: Balancing acceptance and agency\n22:45: Enlightened self-interest and working with couples\n29:25: Three phases to get more of what you want in relationships without a counselor\n33:35: How to support people\u2013particularly women\u2013in dealing with unfairness\n37:15: Gendered tendencies\u2013moving into intimacy and out of patriarchy\n43:20: Shame and healthy self-esteem\n49:40: Relational reckoning and relational integrity\n56:55: Repairing trust and grandiosity\n1:01:00: Recap\nSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.\nSponsors:\nJoin over a million people using BetterHelp, the world\u2019s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!\nWant to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.\nTry Splendid Spoon today and take meal-planning off your plate. Just go to SplendidSpoon.com/BEINGWELL for $50 off your first box\nReady to shake up your protein Ritual? Being Well listeners get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/WELL.\nConnect with the show:\n\nSubscribe on iTunes\n\nFollow Forrest on YouTube\n\nFollow us on Instagram\n\nFollow Forrest on Instagram\n\nFollow Rick on Facebook\n\nFollow Forrest on Facebook\n\nVisit Forrest's website