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We all make mistakes in life. When we do it's important to take appropriate responsibility, feel the "wince," and make amends as we can. But after we've done that...then what? Many people find it easier to forgive others than they do to truly forgive themselves, and it's not uncommon to be burdened by excessive shame and guilt that has outlived its expiration date.\nOn this episode Dr. Rick and Forrest explore forgiveness, including how we can forgive ourselves. This includes common myths and misunderstandings about forgiveness, the difference between healthy and unhealthy forms of shame and remorse, coming to terms with what we've done, and a roadmap to achieving (self-)forgiveness.\xa0\nKey Topics:\n0:00: Introduction\n2:05: Assumptions, approval, and what forgiveness is and is not\n7:45: What does healthy remorse look like?\n10:00: Forrest exploring a dream about appropriate remorse\n13:00: Our internalized justice system\n17:00: More on dreams and internal parts\n24:25: Aspects of unhealthy remorse\n27:30: How to move through a recurring cycle of shame and unhealthy remorse\n32:30: Proportionality, defensiveness, intention, and owning your mistakes\n41:00: Clean pain and dirty pain\n46:55: Some concrete practices\n51:40: Recap\nSupport the Podcast: We're on Patreon! For just the cost of a cup of coffee a month you can support the show, and receive a variety of bonuses in return.\nSponsors:\nListen to Season 2 of Turning Points from Boston Globe Media wherever you get your podcasts!\nAccess over 30 at-home lab tests from Everlywell, and head to everlywell.com/beingwell for twenty percent off your next test.\nJoin over a million people using BetterHelp, the world\u2019s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!\nWant to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.\nConnect with the show:\n\nSubscribe on iTunes\n\nFollow Forrest on YouTube\n\nFollow us on Instagram\n\nFollow Forrest on Instagram\n\nFollow Rick on Facebook\n\nFollow Forrest on Facebook\n\nVisit Forrest's website