Creating a Secure Relationship with Elizabeth Earnshaw

Published: Nov. 15, 2021, 11 a.m.

We all want a relationship that's more than just functional, we want one that's truly fulfilling. On today's episode Forrest is joined by a wonderful therapist and author who focuses on giving people the tools they need to communicate, navigate hard times, and create deeper connections with other people: Elizabeth Earnshaw. They explore:\xa0\n\nHow the pandemic impacted our relationships\n\nThe Gottman approach\n\nThe stages of a relationship\n\nBalancing differing needs for intimacy\n\nHow to request, and give, repair.\n\nThey then close the episode with a fun game focused on debunking common relationship myths.\nAbout our Guest: Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, the founder of A Better Life Therapy, and the author of I Want This to Work.\xa0You might also know her as\xa0@lizlistens on Instagram, where she\u2019s helped countless people transform their relationships.\nFrom Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Our holiday sale is going on now, and podcast listeners can use the code\xa0BEINGWELL25\xa0 for another 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need.\xa0\nWatch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You \xa0can watch this episode on YouTube.\nKey Topics:\n0:00: Introduction.\n1:45: Elizabeth\u2019s background.\n5:30: How did the pandemic impact relationships?\n7:30: Responding to stress in relationships.\n9:00: Co-regulation.\n11:15: Punishing others for our unpleasant emotions.\xa0\n13:45: The four stages of relationships.\n17:50: What to look for in a partner.\xa0\n20:10: The \u201cFour Horsemen\u201d of bad relationship communication.\xa0\n24:25: Key skills for navigating conflict together.\xa0\n27:00: How to request repair from your partner.\n34:10: Deciding if you should leave.\n37:45: Interdependence.\n41:30: Balancing differing needs for intimacy.\n46:30: The Instagram Meme Game: Common misconceptions about relationships.\n47:30: \u201cPartners should share everything with each other.\u201d\n50:30: \u201cYour partner should be your ride or die.\u201d\n52:15: \u201cNever go to bed angry.\u201d\n54:50: \u201cMy partner is my missing piece.\u201d\n56:35: \u201cIf you can\u2019t handle me on my worst day, you don\u2019t deserve me on my best day.\u201d\n1:02:05: Recap.\nSupport the Podcast:\xa0We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.\nSponsors:\nFrom Boston Globe Media comes a new podcast, TURNING POINTS, a show about navigating mental health. Listen on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.\nFind the new CBD+ performance gummies and the whole dosist health line-up today at dosisthealth.com. Use promo code BEINGWELL20 for 20% off your purchase.\xa0\nJoin\xa0over a million people using BetterHelp, the world\u2019s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!\xa0\nWant to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.\nConnect with the show:\n\nSubscribe on iTunes\n\nFollow Forrest on YouTube\n\nFollow us on Instagram\n\nFollow Forrest on Instagram\n\nFollow Rick on Facebook\n\nFollow Forrest on Facebook\n\nVisit Forrest's website