Coping with Failure, and Dealing with Disappointment

Published: Feb. 28, 2022, 8 a.m.

One of the most important skills we can develop is the ability to deal with disappointment and cope with failures big and small. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss what it looks like to experience failure not as falling short, but as an opportunity for growth. They explore cultural narratives around "failure," individual variation in sensitivity, and how to manage the pain of failure, adapt expectations, and develop systems of feedback to allow for a greater sense of ease and purpose.\nWatch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You\xa0can watch this episode on YouTube.\nKey Topics:\n0:00: Introduction\n2:00: What do we mean by failure?\n5:55: How loss works in the brain and what makes us sensitive to losing\n8:30: Managing expectations of success\n10:30: Attributional styles\n13:10: How some can handle failure with greater ease than others\n22:30: Deconstructing old narratives and failure as an opportunity for learning\n28:30: Managing the pain of failure and setting up feedback systems\n34:20: An example from Forrest\u2019s experience\n38:20: Poor decisions, lack of foresight, losing your nerve\n40:30: Willingness to take risks\n45:00: Defining our notion of success and failure via process vs. outcome\n48:20: Recap\nSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.\nHave a question for us?\xa0\nEmail: contact@beingwellpodcast.com to submit questions or potential topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes.\nSponsors:\nVisit athleticgreens.com/BEINGWELL to take ownership over your health, and pick up the ultimate daily nutritional insurance!\nJoin\xa0over a million people using BetterHelp, the world\u2019s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!\xa0\nWant to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.\nDiscover your full genetic potential by uploading your existing DNA test results at gemonelink.io. No trial period, no credit card, and no hidden fees!\nConnect with the show:\n\nSubscribe on iTunes\n\nFollow Forrest on YouTube\n\nFollow us on Instagram\n\nFollow Forrest on Instagram\n\nFollow Rick on Facebook\n\nFollow Forrest on Facebook\n\nVisit Forrest's website