Chapter 91: Nora McInerny on nixing numbers and nurturing naked needs

Published: Nov. 19, 2021, 8:57 a.m.

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Welcome to Chapter 91 of 3 Books!

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How are you holding up in 2021? It has been a wild 20 months.

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You\\u2019ve been telling me you are thankful for the show and I have been telling you I\\u2019m thankful for you. I appreciate your notes, your phone calls, your letters, and your reviews and we travel and meet across space and time \\u2014 meeting up whenever the moon above is is completely full or completely empty.

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Today I am so thrilled to share with you the enigmatic, witty, multi-hyphenate Nora McInerny.

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In 2014 Nora went through a deeply traumatic six weeks. She had a miscarriage, lost her father, and lost her husband Aaron with whom she had a young son. She spent the next year of her life couch surfing, staying with friends, trying to process the loss, the grief and the trauma. And what has emerged is somebody who I feel is at the world\\u2019s leading edge of discussing things like grief, trauma, loss, widowhood, and how we navigate forward with those all bottled up inside us.

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Nora is the successful author of It\\u2019s OK to Laugh, Crying is Cool Too, No Happy Endings, The Hot Young Widow\\u2019s Club, and the movie novelization of Bad Moms. (Shoutout to Chapter 82 with Quentin Tarantino!).

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Nora gave a wonderful TED Talk called \\u201cWe don\\u2019t move on from grief; we move forward with it\\u201d which, at the time of me writing this, has 5,798,513 views.

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But all that stuff \\u2014 the books! the talks! \\u2014 are probably not as well known as her spectacular, award-winning podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking (TTFA).

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If you don\\u2019t already, check it out \\u2014 subscribe, listen, and love. I was lucky enough to be a guest a year and a half ago and Nora gave me permission to share the audio in a 3 Books Bookmark this past March.

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Nora McInerny is coming to us from her closet in Arizona, where she is now resettled into a new relationship, co-parenting her child with her new husband\\u2019s children.

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Get cozy in between us and let\\u2019s the three of us hang out and talk about: intentional parenting, grief processing, shininess vs work, sliding scales of empathy, dating after divorce, navigating our deepest needs, and, of course, the one and only Nora McInerny\\u2019s 3 most formative books.

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Let\\u2019s flip the page into Chapter 91 now\\u2026

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What You\'ll Learn

  • What is emotional coziness?

  • How do we navigate self-consciousness?

  • What makes children\\u2019s books so unique?

  • How can we better understand our values?

  • How can we process our grief?

  • What is the difference between processing versus coping with grief?

  • What is the difference between grief and depression?

  • How soon should you start dating after becoming a widower?

  • Why is the grief of divorce or breakups underestimated?

  • Why is it so important to convey the humanity of experiences vs the absurdity?

  • How do you turn the mundane into the interesting?

  • How can we curb digital self harm?

  • What is the value of effort?

  • What is digital enlightenment?

  • Why is categorization counterproductive?

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