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Do you have a therapist?

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Do you meet up with someone on a regular basis to open up, talk about yourself, and get into the weeds of your emotions? Maybe the ones you can articulate, the ones you can\\u2019t articulate, the ones you\\u2019re angry about having, the ones you\\u2019re confused about having.

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I started seeing a therapist about 10 years ago.

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After the loss of my marriage and my best friend, it was suggested by my parents that I would benefit from seeing a therapist.

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I\\u2019m embarrassed to admit I said no. \\u201cI don\\u2019t need a therapist! I don\\u2019t have problems! That\\u2019s for people with problems! That\\u2019s not me!\\u201d

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Maybe it was the years, decades, generations of stigma and taboos around that word? Therapy. Growing up I never heard about anyone going to therapy except in the context of some desperate, last second attempt to salvage something like a failing marriage at the eleventh hour.

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Maybe that\\u2019s why I\\u2019m talking about it today! I\\u2019m very lucky to have a therapist. And proud of it too, I\\u2019d say. My wife Leslie is, too. We talk openly about going to therapy with our children. So often, so easily, so quickly, people say, \\u2018I\\u2019ve got to go to workout, I\\u2019ve got to go to the gym, I\\u2019ve got to run on the treadmill.\\u2019 We\\u2019re so open about sharing physical self care. But we aren\\u2019t nearly as open about mental self care. And that conversation only progresses globally if we keep having conversations like the one we\\u2019re about to have today\\u2026

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So welcome, welcome, welcome. Great to have you here. Thank you for reading all the way down here! Are you new? Are you a 3 Books virgin? If so, you picked a wonderful chapter to begin with. Chapter 84 with Lori Gottlieb. If you like it, we\\u2019d love to have you join our community. 3 Books is by and for book lovers, writers, makers, sellers and librarians. The show is a 100% a labor of love and a piece of art with no ads, no sponsors, no promotions, and no interruptions. We\\u2019ve got deep values like no book guilt, no book shame, the right to sip, the right to dip. We\\u2019re not about reading as a chore, or as a job, or as homework. We\\u2019re all about discovering or rediscovering the pure joy of books or deepening the love you already have.

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Today I am very excited to share with you a conversation with the one and only Lori Gottlieb.

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Do you know Lori Gottlieb?

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She\\u2019s a psychotherapist and author of the New York Times bestseller, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone which has sold well over a million copies. It\\u2019s even being adapted as a television series. She writes the extremely popular weekly column Dear Therapist in The Atlantic. She contributes regularly to The New York Times, has a very popular TED Talk, shared one of the best stories at The Moth ever, and is a member of the Advisory Council for Bring Change To Mind. Finally, she also hosts her own wonderful podcast called Dear Therapists.

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As a therapist who writes about therapy, Lori kicks open the door to conversations we need to have.

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We are going to talk about finding a therapist, making adult friends, what you should ask instead of \\u2018how are you?\\u2019, how heterosexual women often react to men crying, processing grief, the key ingredient to vulnerability, tennis partners, defining emotions, the voices in our head, the root cause of trauma, why insight is the booby prize of therapy, and, of course, about the wonderful Lori Gottlieb\\u2019s three most formative books.

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Let\\u2019s turn the page into Chapter 84 now \\u2026

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What You\'ll Learn:

• What is the difference between content and process in therapy?

• How do people move through their struggles?

• What makes us human at our core?

• How can we find ourselves in the stories of others?

• How much should we share about ourselves on social media?

• What is the importance of authenticity for a writer?

• How do therapists use their own humanity to help others?

• How should we navigate vulnerability in writing?

• How can authors write about their own children without betraying their stories which are their own to tell?

• What is true vulnerability?

• What are the misconceptions surrounding therapy?

• How do you test drive your therapist?

• How do we discover our dark side and how can it help us grow as a human being?

• What is the beauty of mentor mentee relationships?

• Why are adult friendships hard to come by, specifically for men?

• Why is it harder for men to be vulnerable?

• Why do we apologize when we cry?

• What is the danger of labeling feelings?

• How can we use our feelings without judgement to make better decisions?

• What is the danger of numbing our feelings?

• Why should we not talk our kids out of their feelings?

• How should we deal with loss and why are the commonly listed stages of grief not necessarily helpful?

• How do we grieve better?

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You can find show notes and more information by clicking here:\\xa0https://www.3books.co/chapters/84\\xa0

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