EP141: Be Present, Not Perfect
Perfectionism is a tricky trait. We can convince ourselves that it increases our worth without noticing how it can drain our zest for life. This episode talks about being present, not perfect.
I worked in Corporate America for decades and had a great gig. Early in my career, I was a bit of a perfectionist. I really worked hard to make any project the absolute best it could be. I had a vision, and I thoughtfully followed through with it to make that vision a reality. That high level of performance came with an unnecessary set back that I’d like to talk about today.
I’m here to spend quality solo time with you for EP141’s Wise Walk as we discover our True Stride. I got attached to the identity of making things seem perfect. My perfectionism was so visible that my boss shared a quote with me that changed my view of what’s “good enough.” The conversation we had about the quote helped me reflect on how perfectionism can stand in the way of what good we are already doing.
On our Wise Walk, I talk about being present, not perfect. It’s okay to be honest about where you are in the moment and appreciate what you have to offer at that time. Come with me as we reflect on these Wise Walk questions:
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Where in your life are you holding onto unrealistic expectations that you set for yourself?
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How can you make more room for being present without heavy expectations?
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Where in your life have you been holding back because of unrealistic expectations?
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How would it feel if you could release what’s holding you back?
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Do you feel lighter when releasing those expectations?
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Where can you let go of the ideal of perfection?
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How can you protect “the good” from perfectionism?
Perfectionism can be heavy. Don’t let perfectionism hold you back from sharing and experiencing life.
Think of “good enough” as whatever is realistic for you to tackle at the moment. Release unnecessary expectations with these Wise Walk questions:
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Where can you free yourself from the idea of perfectionism projected on you by society?
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What really matters to you?
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Where in your life can you stop apologizing unnecessarily?
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Can you let go of your inner critic?
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Where can you give grace for the messiness of life?
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Can you reevaluate if you’re putting unrealistic expectations on others?
Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other.
In this episode:
[00:23] - Welcome to the show!
[02:22] - Where in your life are you holding onto unrealistic expectations that you’re setting for yourself?
[04:41] - Mary Tess talks about improving on the art of being present.
[06:30] - What is “good enough” for you today?
[09:24] - Let go of unrealistic demands.
[12:20] - Mary Tess reflects on the habit of saying “sorry” more than needed.
[14:39] - Thank you for listening!
Memorable Quotes:
“It is good enough if this is all I can do today.” - Mary Tess
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