EP104: NO is Empowering
A simple \u201cNo\u201d is all you need. It can feel awkward sometimes, but what people don\u2019t realize is that \u201cNo\u201d can be freeing and thoughtful. Sometimes you have to say \u201cNo\u201d or you\u2019ll be giving less than what you\u2019re capable of being. That\u2019s not good for you or anyone else. This episode talks about how saying \u201cNo\u201d is empowering.
Empowerment is a feeling of being aligned with our intentions. In life, there are moments where you need to say \u201cNo\u201d to stay in tune with your authentic self. You communicate a clear intention with \u201cNo\u201d that tells people what you will or will not engage.\xa0
I\u2019m here to spend quality solo time with you for EP104\u2019s Wise Walk as we discover our True Stride. The most powerful part of \u201cNo\u201d is that it\u2019s a complete statement. Saying \u201cNo\u201d is a very healthy boundary that keeps you aligned and frees you up to receive better aligned opportunities. A \u201cNo\u201d can save you from wasting time or draining your energy.\xa0
On our Wise Walk, I talk about why \u201cNo\u201d is empowering and ways to communicate \u201cNo\u201d if you feel hesitant. Come with me as we reflect on these Wise Walk questions:
- How often do you use \u201cNo\u201d in your life?
- Do you find yourself explaining your \u201cNo\u201d because you feel like you owe people a reason?
- What\u2019s the feeling that arises in you when you know you have to say \u201cNo\u201d to something?
- Are there times in your life where you feel a \u201cNo\u201d is in your best interest?
- If you hesitate to say \u201cNo\u201d, does that cause friction since the other person is not able to make their next choice?
When something is presented to you and it doesn\u2019t feel right, you can say \u201cNo\u201d. What you say \u201cYes\u201d or \u201cNo\u201d to will create ripples in your life. You should want those ripples to reflect your true self.
Confidently say \u201cNo\u201d without over-explaining. A few clear and kind responses include:
- No, but thank you for including me (or thinking of me).
- No, but I\u2019m sure you can work through that or get additional resources you need.
- No, but I appreciate your offer.
Create personal boundaries with these Wise Walk questions:
- Can you exercise your ability to say \u201cNo\u201d so that it becomes easier for you?
- Why are you triggered by saying \u201cNo\u201d?
- What feelings or explanations surface when this happens?
- How can you shift your energy to express your feelings in an empowering and confident way?
Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other.
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In this episode:
[00:23] - Welcome to the show!
[02:21] - Saying \u201cNo\u201d can be energizing.
[04:17] - Mary Tess points out how we never explain a \u201cYes\u201d the way we do a \u201cNo.\u201d
[05:47] - Mary Tess shares how you can intentionally express your support without feeling guilt or obligation.
[07:30] - Saying \u2018No\u2019 can free you up and free others up as well.
[09:36] - We can all move on from a \u201cNo.\u201d
[11:02] - Are you doing what\u2019s best for you?
[13:52] - Thank you for listening!
Memorable Quotes:
- \u201cEvery time we create those personal boundaries without explanation, or clearly and lovingly expressing what our hearts are saying, then people can respond in-kind. They can receive it, take that information, and make the best decisions for their life too.\u201d - Mary Tess
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