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b'Today\\u2019s conversation is required listening for everyone.\\n\\nWe are going to blow the lid off of emotional triggers.\\n\\nLet\\u2019s get to the bottom of why you and I react the way we do, and more importantly, learn simple ways to take control of our emotions.\\n\\nIt doesn\\u2019t matter where you live, how you grew up, or even if you\\u2019re a freakin\\u2019 saint to everyone else, I know you have something that triggers you.\\n\\nYou have days just like I do when something sets you off and you either snap like a firecracker or withdraw like a turtle in a shell.\\n\\nAnd just like me, you say and do things you later regret.\\n\\nI\\u2019ll go first: I\\u2019m trying hard to work on the nasty tone of voice I use with Chris and our kids when I feel frustrated or confronted.\\n\\nAnd it doesn\\u2019t end there. If you\\u2019re like me, you beat yourself up for getting triggered, and you now start feeling bad and regret what you did (or the fact that you did nothing).\\n\\nIt makes me feel like crap when I do these things. I have felt helpless for a long time because it\\u2019s been so automatic when I get triggered emotionally. \\n\\nI don\\u2019t want to keep living like this. I\\u2019d like to feel calm, peaceful, and more in control.\\n\\nAnd that\\u2019s what this episode is about. \\n\\nWouldn\\u2019t you love to get out of this cycle of feeling emotionally triggered? Wouldn\\u2019t you love to take control of your emotional life as an adult?\\n\\nThe good news: you can rewire your response to stressful and annoying situations.\\n\\nAnd in turn, you\\u2019ll bring more happiness, presence, control, and closer relationships into your life, because you\\u2019ll be present in them instead of letting your emotions drive you. \\n\\nSo, who is going to teach us about triggers?\\n\\nI\\u2019ve tracked down a psychologist who teaches one of the most popular online workshops about this topic:\\n\\nThe incredible Dr. Becky Kennedy.\\n\\nShe\\u2019s the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Good Inside. And do not let the fact that she is a child psychologist and parenting expert keep you from soaking up and applying everything you can learn from her.\\n\\nNo matter how old you are right now, YOU were once a child. And that, my friend, is where your triggers got hardwired inside of you: before you even knew how to talk.\\n\\nUnderstanding triggers (and taming them) requires you to go back before you can move forward.\\n\\nDr. Becky says, \\u201cYour triggers are stories from your past.\\u201d\\n\\nListen to this episode and really try to absorb what Dr. Becky shares, because the wiring and triggers that frustrate you right now are not permanent.\\n\\nI know you\\u2019re going to send this to every one of your friends who is a parent, and please send it to your kids, nieces, and nephews, too. \\n\\nLearning how to rewire my response to stress at 54 is amazing. But imagine if you knew how to do this in high school. That\\u2019s why I\\u2019ve asked our three kids \\u2013 ages 23, 22, and 17 \\u2013 to listen too. Sure, it would be nice for us to pass this healing and confidence-building stuff down to every generation, right? If they get this information now, they can rewire themselves faster.\\n\\nThis is really important, life-changing stuff. And I love that it\\u2019s also so simple. And you know what else I love? You. Thank you for listening and let me know what you learn.\\n\\nXo, Mel\\n\\nPS: Want to go deeper?\\n\\nFor complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com\\n\\nOne thing that helped me gain control is taking control of my mornings. If you haven\\u2019t checked out my free 5-day Wakeup Challenge, let me support you in getting going and creating a better morning. Sign up here.'