I Dont Usually Share Advice Like This: 6 Lessons on Making Any Relationship Work
b'In this episode, I\\u2019m getting brutally honest with you about relationships. \\n \\nOur conversation begins with a question from a listener who asked me for advice on how to make your relationship go the distance in this messy modern world.\\n \\nI\\u2019ve always shied away from giving relationship advice, mainly because after 26 years of marriage, I know the only secret is this: it takes a lot of consistent work.\\n \\nI also don\\u2019t consider myself an \\u201cexpert\\u201d on the topic because our relationship seems to always need attention. It\\u2019s so easy to silently retreat to your corners and not address the issues. And there were years where we did just that.\\n \\nIn fact, over the past few years, Chris and I have been working through some really heavy issues with a couples therapist.\\n \\nToday I share very personal revelations I\\u2019ve had about my own role in causing problems between us. After all we\\u2019ve been through, I\\u2019m really proud of my husband, Chris, and me for making it this long and doing the work to make it better.\\n \\nIn the process of working hard to improve our relationship, I learned six powerful lessons that I felt compelled to share with you. Not because I hold the magic wand, but because I hope these lessons will save you the pain and heartaches I\\u2019ve caused myself and my husband.\\n \\nNo matter what kind of relationship you might be in, working on, struggling with, or hoping to save, these six lessons will provide a roadmap to make it better.\\n \\nWhether you are married, dating, divorced, happily single, or experiencing a falling out with a friend, this episode will have something for you.\\n \\nAbout halfway through, another listener asks,\\n \\n\\u201cWhat do I do if my partner doesn\\u2019t want to do the work?\\u201d \\n \\nIn that case, there\\u2019s just one rule for when it\\u2019s time for you to move on.\\n \\nOh, one more thing, if you and your partner are having a hard time\\u2026 Share this episode with them. It\\u2019s a simple way to open the door for a much-needed conversation.\\n \\nXo Mel \\n \\n\\nIn this episode, you\\u2019ll learn:\\n\\n\\n0:30: The one question you often ask that I put off answering for a long time.\\n3:30: Here\\u2019s the hard truth you should know about my marriage.\\n6:30: Here\\u2019s what I think about \\u201cstaying in a marriage for the kids\\u201d\\n8:30: The concerning relationship trend I see happening.\\n15:00: Would I be better off without my husband?\\n18:15: This is the only way relationships work out.\\n24:30: What I was doing wrong in my own marriage.\\n28:00: 6 pieces of advice for any relationship.\\n37:30: Here\\u2019s why the way you react to your partner\\u2019s good news matters.\\n43:00: What do you do when your partner isn\\u2019t growing with you?\\n \\n \\n \\nDisclaimer'