A Toolkit for Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go
b'In this episode, you and I are getting a masterclass on the topic of love.\\n\\nAnd it\\u2019s not what you think. \\n\\nThis is not an episode about relationships \\u2013 it is an episode about YOUR relationship to love and how you can let more love into your life. \\n\\nMy mission with this episode is to inspire you to stop and consider the profound subject of love, how important it is, and why you deserve to feel more love in your daily life.\\n\\nIf you have felt alone or feel like your relationships are on autopilot, this episode is a real gift.\\n\\nI am also excited because as you listen to this episode, I get to introduce you to someone I really love. \\n\\nHe and his wife are very dear friends of ours and he just finished a two-year-long research project on the topic of love. \\n\\nThis friend of mine is also a former monk with a tender heart and a global fanbase. \\n\\nHis sage counsel on life is sought after by celebrities, world leaders, professional athletes, and the most successful artists in the world.\\n\\nI\\u2019m talking about none other than my friend, Jay Shetty. He\\u2019s the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Like a Monk, and his latest book is 8 Rules of Love.\\n\\nClimb into your favorite chair and get ready for a wild ride. \\n\\nI threw out the talking points from Jay\\u2019s PR team and just went for it. I love this episode because Jay delivered. \\n\\nHe gets personal and reveals more about his own experience and mistakes with love than ever before.\\n\\nThis is a must listen and a must share. Listen as a family. Listen with friends. Listen as a couple. Listen by yourself. Love is what we need. And hearing two dear friends go deep on the topic will make your heart swell.\\n\\nEven an old dog like me learned a few new tricks about how I can experience more love and be more loving in my life \\u2764\\ufe0f\\n\\nXo Mel\\n\\nIn this episode, you\\u2019ll learn:\\n\\n\\n3:40: Hear Jay\\u2019s 3-part definition of love I\\u2019d never heard that is so spot on.\\n4:30: According to research, this is how many hours you need to spend to make a casual friend, a good friend, and a great friend.\\n6:40: Are you doing this with your partner? Jay says that\\u2019s not love.\\n8:00: Okay wow, here\\u2019s where I realize I\\u2019m not doing something for my husband, Chris, that I should be doing.\\n11:15: If your relationship is new, be careful you don\\u2019t do this.\\n13:40: Why do we chase relationships in order to feel worthy?\\n18:15: Rule #1 for finding love.\\n19:50: What research shows will happen if you enter a relationship simply because you\\u2019re afraid of being alone.\\n21:00: Hear Jay in a rare moment where he talks about his childhood trauma.\\n27:00: Here\\u2019s why you keep dating the same kind of person over and over.\\n29:00 One simple exercise you can do today to start building a healthy relationship.\\n31:30: Jay leads us through a powerful meditation.\\n38:15: There are four phases of love: hear them unpacked and explained.\\n40:00:\\xa0 Dating someone new? Then you need to know about both the \\u201chalo effect\\u201d and the \\u201ccontext effect.\\u201d\\n43:30: Jay\\u2019s best piece of advice if you want that new relationship to last.\\n47:00: Here\\u2019s Jay\\u2019s Rule #4 of love and why it\\u2019s my favorite.\\n53:30: Is someone caring for you or controlling you? Here\\u2019s how to tell.\\n55:00: What you might be doing in your relationship that\\u2019s hurting it.\\n57:30: Here\\u2019s what I disagreed with Jay about.\\n59:30: What is the purpose of love in your life? Jay answers.\\n\\n\\nWant to go deeper into the topic of relationships? Listen to the last episode, \\u201cI Don\\u2019t Usually Share Advice Like This: 6 Lessons on Making Any Relationship Work.\\u201d\\n\\n\\nDisclaimer'