3 Things You Need to Accept About Other People
b'Today you and I are digging into three things you must accept about other people. \\n\\nIt took me years to understand these truths.\\n\\nIt sounds horrible, but I always wondered, \\u201cWhat\\u2019s wrong with people? Why don\\u2019t they change?\\u201d\\n\\nI know you can relate. Because today I\\u2019m taking your questions about trying to change other people. \\n\\nYou\\u2019re frustrated by the fact that your spouse or partner won\\u2019t exercise more. You get angry seeing how much money your daughter wastes going out every weekend. You\\u2019re annoyed by how stubborn your parents have become the older they get.\\n\\nMe too.\\n\\nI\\u2019ve tried every tactic you can imagine to get other people to change. And recently I realized the true source of my frustration: It\\u2019s not them, it\\u2019s me.\\n\\nI\\u2019m refusing to accept three things.\\n\\nThese things are hard to accept, and they\\u2019re true.\\n\\nOnce you hear them and you apply them to your life, your relationships will be way easier.\\n\\nIn addition to the three truths about other people, you\\u2019ll learn research that explains why it\\u2019s so hard to get other people to change. And like all episodes, this one is packed with tactical advice and takeaways that you can put to use immediately.\\n\\nAnd, if you\\u2019re the one who\\u2019s busy making changes but your loved ones are not being supportive, I answer that question from a listener, too.\\n\\nI feel compelled to answer your questions because so many of you are improving your life with the tools you\\u2019re learning on this podcast and your family is starting to get annoyed with you. That\\u2019s okay. It shows you\\u2019re making progress (but it doesn\\u2019t make it easy).\\n\\nHopefully today\\u2019s episode will.\\n\\nXo Mel \\n\\nKey lessons:\\n\\n3:12: 3 powerful truths you have to accept about people.\\n4:33: Rule #1 explained\\n6:02: How do you deal with people who don\\u2019t want to change?\\n9:00: Why some people can\\u2019t change.\\n12:42: I\\u2019m embarrassed to tell you this story.\\n19:49: Rule #2 explained\\n20:37: Rule #3 explained\\n21:44: My \\u201c6-month rule\\u201d for any complainer\\n32:03: What do when the people around you don\\u2019t support the changes you\\u2019re making\\n40:23: The science of \\u201cMyside bias\\u201d and what it says about human nature\\n\\nFor full show notes, go to melrobbins.com/podcast\\n\\nDo you want to create a better morning routine? Join my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge and I\\u2019ll coach day by day on setting your day up for success here.'