296: How Self-Validation Will Change Your Life
In my 25 years of practicing as a therapist and holistic life coach, I found that there was one common root cause behind many of the issues my clients were facing: low self-worth. From codependency to difficulty with decisions or boundaries, not having a strong connection with the inner self was often the driving force behind these challenges.
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Most of us have a tendency to look outside of ourselves for worth and validation, and building up a strong sense of who we are on the inside takes practice. One of the simplest and most powerful places to start is with self-validation.
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Self-validation is when we notice who we are \u2013 our actions, thoughts and feelings \u2013 and we affirm ourselves. It\u2019s not bragging or comparing ourselves to others but rather speaking truth to ourselves and cheering ourselves on\u2026which not only builds up our sense of self-worth but also leads to healthier relationships as we stop looking to others to validate us.
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In this episode, I\u2019m sharing more about the power of self-validation and simple steps for how you can begin a practice of doing this every day. It literally takes seconds to do, and over time, it will change your life!\xa0
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Listen to discover:
- What self-validation is and why it\u2019s important
- The connection between self-validation and self-worth
- What self-validation looks like in real life
- Steps to starting a practice of self-validation
- The difference between self-validation and narcissism or bragging
No one can make us feel or believe something we don\u2019t believe about ourselves. So, if we don\u2019t have a sense of our own self-worth, no amount of validation from others is going to give us what we need. It\u2019s an endless cycle of approval-seeking that never fills us up.\xa0
That\u2019s why we have to lay a foundation of self-worth and believe in our own goodness so that when others validate us, we can actually let it land and show up more authentically \u2013 as the true self that we know and love.
\u201cSelf-validation starts a domino effect to help heal all of these things because self-validation starts to build self-worth.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
\u201cSelf-validation is when we notice what we\u2019re doing or thinking or feeling and we acknowledge it, we own it and then we give ourselves a pat on the back about it.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
\u201cIf you want healthy relationships, start out by self-validating. It is unhealthy for us to rely on external validation.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
\u201cSelf-validation is the healthy way to feel good about self.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
\u201cWhen you add that validation that takes seconds, my internal self gets built up, my self-worth gets built up, my sense of self becomes a little bit more positive.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
\u201cIt\u2019s your job to share with others what you need.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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