268: How to Use The Adult Chair in Everyday Experiences
The work we do in The Adult Chair\xae isn\u2019t just about healing past wounding, working with the inner child, parts work or uncovering unconscious programming (though you know I LOVE all of those things).
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It\u2019s also about navigating everyday life...what\u2019s happening in the here and now.
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Because let\u2019s be honest: when life comes at us (and it always does), it can be hard to stay grounded and in peace and balance. It\u2019s often the everyday experiences of flat tires, our kids talking back to us, our boss giving us a last-minute deadline and home projects gone awry where stress, anger, and anxiety build up and we find ourselves seated smack dab in our Adolescent Chair.
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But that\u2019s exactly what The Adult Chair model is here for. It's a model for how to live as the healthiest version of yourself and a manual for everyday life..including when you're having just \u201cone of those days.\u201d
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In this episode, I\u2019m walking you through some key Adult Chair principles that are designed to help you navigate everyday stress and stay in balance, even when curveballs get thrown your way. I\u2019m sharing some real examples from my recent home remodel and how I was able to witness the choices I had in each small moment and choose the ones that pulled me out of stress and into peace (even when in a frustrating situation). These tips are simple and practical, and if I can do it, I promise you can too!
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Listen to discover:
- How to live with presence
- Why curiosity can change any situation
- How to witness thoughts without buying into them
- The importance of protecting your own nervous system
- Working with triggers
- How to stay in your Adult when dealing with work and parenting challenges
These principles don\u2019t mean we don\u2019t feel stress or anger. They just mean we don\u2019t let it overtake us. When life happens, there is always a moment where we have a choice and that choice is to either go into the negativity or to take charge of the situation and do what is needed without added suffering or drama. This is how we honor our Child\u2019s emotions and the Adolescent\u2019s need to protect while operating from a place of consciousness and staying in our peaceful Adult Chair.
\u201cWhen I live with presence, I\u2019m not going into the past and pulling up ammunition for what\u2019s going on in my present moment, and I\u2019m also not launching into the future to figure out what\u2019s coming.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cWe\u2019ve got 70,000 to 90,000 thoughts a day. We don\u2019t need to follow all of them.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cMy emotions are not in control of me. They just run through me.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cThe world mirrors where we are with\u2026how well we\u2019re living in the healthiest version of ourselves.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cThings happen to us and how we see it and perceive it and tell the story can really stir up some serious drama.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cDrama is a choice. Pulling out anger is a choice. And it affects only me.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cWe have to make choices and changes in our life to get ourselves out of stress.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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Resources
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The Adult Chair\xae Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
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P&G Hair Food
Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart
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More Adult Chair
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The Adult Chair\xae Website
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The Adult Chair\xae Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
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The Adult Chair\xae Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events/
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The Adult Chair\xae Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
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TAC Circles\xae
https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
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Stay Connected
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/
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The Adult Chair\xae Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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