266: Making Relationships Work from The Adult Chair
We all want healthier, stronger relationships. As beings wired for connection, relationships can bring us the greatest joy and fulfillment in life...or, when they\u2019re full of chaos, drama, miscommunication, and misunderstandings, they can bring lots of pain and confusion.
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When we\u2019re experiencing relationship drama, our first reaction is to blame our partner or assume we\u2019re with the wrong person. But the truth is that we get to define our relationships by how we show up in them...we\u2019re creating either an Adolescent relationship (think blame, drama and ego) or an Adult relationship (centered on truth, clarity and empathy). We have the power to transform our relationships just by changing the Chair we\u2019re sitting in!\xa0
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In this episode, I\u2019m bringing back my friend, Tracy, who has shared her journey through her divorce and reentering the dating scene. Now, she\u2019s in a relationship and she is sharing how The Adult Chair\xae has helped her change that relationship for the better.\xa0
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She opens up about how both she and her boyfriend brought their individual fears and doubts to the table and how a series of stories and assumptions actually led them to break up for several months. But when she realized this relationship was too important to her to lose, she decided to drop assumptions and blame and instead get vulnerable and speak her truth (be in her Adult Chair!). When she did this, it completely transformed the dynamics of her relationship, and it\u2019s now stronger than ever!
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Listen to discover:
- How to use The Adult Chair model in relationships\xa0
- The moment that turned Tracy\u2019s relationship completely around\xa0
- How rationalization and blame ruin relationships
- How to get out of the weeds in relationship communication
- The power of vulnerability\xa0
Tracy did such an amazing job in the conversation she had with her boyfriend, and I\u2019m so proud of how she models The Adult Chair for him and for everyone listening to the show. It is incredibly uncomfortable to get vulnerable. It\u2019s even more uncomfortable to let go of our ego, own our role in the relationship, stop trying to prove we\u2019re right and instead look for solutions. But when we do this, we invite our partner into a different kind of relationship \u2014 one centered on common goals, a higher perspective and a model that works!\xa0
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\u201cThere has to be, when we\u2019re in our Adult Chair, taking responsibility, owning your reality, being honest and talking about the elephant in the room.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant\xa0
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\u201cI practiced speaking fact and truth and being totally vulnerable.\u201d - Tracy\xa0
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\u201cIf you\u2019re having an argument, it gets you nowhere. You have to go with a higher perspective.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant\xa0\xa0
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\u201cI\u2019m blown away by how the work you have done, this Adult Chair model, how it truly works.\u201d - Tracy
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\u201cIt\u2019s no one\u2019s job but our own to share with others what we\u2019re experiencing.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant\xa0\xa0
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\u201c[The Adult Chair] gives us tools for how to show up in life.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant\xa0
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Resources
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Episode #179: I\u2019m in a Relationship with a Narcissist
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/179/\xa0
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Episode #199: Dating from The Adult Chair\xae
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/199/\xa0
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The Adult Chair\xae Workshop - Charleston
https://theadultchair.com/charleston/\xa0
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P&G Hair Food
Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart
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More Adult Chair\xa0
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The Adult Chair\xae Website
https://theadultchair.com\xa0\xa0
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The Adult Chair\xae Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
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The Adult Chair\xae Workshop\xa0
https://theadultchair.com/events/
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The Adult Chair\xae Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
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TAC Circles\xae
https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
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Stay Connected
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/
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The Adult Chair\xae Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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