263: Finding your True Self with Dr. Shefali
The world around us demands so much of us. If we\u2019re not careful, it can erode our souls, steal our true selves and get us to believe lies about the source of our worth. We have to become conscious and aware to step into our true power and a whole, awakened life.
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I have been a huge fan of Dr. Shefali for years. I got SO much out of her work on conscious parenting when my kids were young, and it\u2019s no wonder she\u2019s become so well known for her work. But her new book might just be my favorite yet \u2014 I truly couldn\u2019t put it down (it\u2019s SO aligned with The Adult Chair\xae) \u2014 and I\u2019m beyond thrilled to have her on the show to discuss how to have a radical (and beautiful) awakening in life.
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In this conversation, we explore the way our ego and our social conditioning covers up the true self and keeps us from living free lives. This can be especially true for those oriented towards giving, nurturing and connecting. Society takes these gifts and trains us to be outward focused, seeking praise, validation and approval instead of turning inward and claiming who we really are.
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Dr. Shefali shares her own story of awakening, when she realized that despite her work, she was living in the \u201cmatrix\u201d and ignoring her true wants and needs to try to get love from others (what she calls the \u201cbeggar\u201d mentality). By going deep into the often difficult work of looking at the ego and the masks we all wear, she was able to strip away the lies and see what was true \u2014 and step into the authentic self-love and self-care we all deserve.
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Listen to discover:
- Shefali\u2019s own radical awakening
- The trap women (and men) fall into
- How to stop suppressing the true self
- What soul erosion is and how it forms
- The \u201ctriple threat\u201d women face in childhood
- The role of the ego in our life
- What keeps us from awakening (especially in our culture)
This is a profound conversation that will take the blinders off and change what you think is normal, while inspiring you to strive for what is truly possible for you \u2014 and for all of us.
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\u201cWe, women especially, need to snap out of our chronic civility, helplessness and unworthiness.\u201d\xa0 - Dr. Shefali
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\u201cWe cannot waste our life never discovering our true self.\u201d - Dr. Shefali
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\u201cWhen we\u2019re told we can only be given worth when we put others before ourselves, now that giving heart leads to an obliteration of ourselves.\u201d - Dr. Shefali
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\u201cWe\u2019re so disconnected from our true self, we don\u2019t know who we are at all.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cThe way out is in. We have to go in to heal.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cI want what\u2019s on the other side of that wall, but you got to go through the wall, and the wall is our pain.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cWe tell ourselves the greatest stories in the world, and we don\u2019t know we\u2019re telling ourselves stories.\u201d - Dr. Shefali
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\u201cThe greatest narcissism is to pretend you\u2019re not a queen or a king and not own your voice.\u201d - Dr. Shefali
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Resources
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\u201cA Radical Awakening\u201d Book and Course
http://aradicalawakening.com/\xa0
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Dr. Shefali Website
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Free Inner Child Resource
https://theadultchair.com/innerchild
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P&G Hair Food
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More Adult Chair
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The Adult Chair\xae Website
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The Adult Chair\xae Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
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The Adult Chair\xae Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events/
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The Adult Chair\xae Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
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TAC Circles\xae
https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
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Stay Connected
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
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The Adult Chair\xae Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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