261: How to Receive a Boundary from Your Adult Chair
We talk a lot about how to set boundaries in The Adult Chair\xae, but sometimes we forget that we are human and sometimes we cross others\u2019 boundaries. The other side of mastering boundaries is learning how to humbly and gracefully receive a boundary when the tables are turned and we\u2019re the ones being asked to shift our behavior or approach.
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It\u2019s very easy to perceive boundaries as criticism and go on the defensive, but receiving a boundary is an opportunity to understand someone better and deepen our relationships. When we show up with presence, pay attention to our triggers and respond with grace, we grow as a person and show up in a more intentional and loving way with the people around us.
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In this episode, we\u2019re looking at the other side of boundaries, and I\u2019m walking you through simple steps for how to receive a boundary well and what not to do when approached with a boundary (plus, how to recover the conversation if you do find yourself getting defensive...it happens to all of us!).
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Listen to discover:
- Practical steps for receiving a boundary with grace
- Tips for recentering when triggered
- How to respond kindly and respectfully
- What not to do when someone sets a boundary with you
- How to spot (and get out of) an Adolescent reaction
If someone comes to you with a boundary, try to think of it as them sharing with you instead of drawing a line in the sand or putting up a wall. Sharing comes from a place of vulnerability and wanting connection, and it\u2019s an honor when someone feels safe enough to share with us...even if it feels a little hard to hear sometimes.
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It takes practice to receive a boundary with grace, but when you own your stuff, you will find you have healthier relationships all around.
\u201cGive them that space to share whatever it is they need to share.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
\u201cGet in your Adult and remind yourself, \u2018It\u2019s not about me.\u2019\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
\u201cYou want to make sure the person that\u2019s sharing their boundary with you feels seen and heard.\u201d\xa0 - Michelle Chalfant
Resources
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The Adult Chair\xae Membership (May Theme: \u201cI Own.\u201d)
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
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TAC Circles\xae
https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
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P&G Hair Food
Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart
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More Adult Chair
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The Adult Chair\xae Website
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The Adult Chair\xae Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
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The Adult Chair\xae Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events/
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The Adult Chair\xae Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
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TAC Circles\xae
https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
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Stay Connected
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