251: How Feeling Your Emotions Can Change Your Relationship with Graham Chalfant
Everyone wants connection \u2014 we\u2019re hardwired for it as humans! But we can only connect as deeply with others as we\u2019ve connected with ourselves. Strong relationships start by going within, feeling our emotions and being willing to open up and share with our partners.
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On this week\u2019s podcast, I have a very, very special guest...my husband! We\u2019re talking with you today together and sharing some very personal details about our marriage and how feeling emotions has changed our relationship for the better.
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Graham comes from a background where emotions weren\u2019t expressed, and I come from an Italian family that was very expressive. For so many years, we both saw the other as not emotional enough or too emotional. Learning to feel, honor and share our emotions has deepened our connection so much and been so transformational for us.
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In this episode, Graham shares what helped him learn to process his emotions, how that\u2019s changed his response to different situations and the changes we\u2019ve both seen in our relationship.
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Listen to discover:
- How relationships can help us overcome childhood issues when we approach them with consciousness
- The importance of raw, open communication in a relationship
- Somatic processing and the power of feeling emotions in the body
- Navigating anger and stress in a relationship
- How feeling emotions deepens intimacy (both emotional and physical)
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By the way, Graham did all of this work on his own (no bonus points for having a spouse who is a therapist and coach!). Which means YOU can do this too! We\u2019re all born with the ability to feel our emotions, but we have to tune in with intention instead of running away from them. When we do, we\u2019ll find they stop coming out sideways and are instead an invitation into deeper connection with others.
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\u201cWhen we engage in a relationship with another human being, our childhood issues are going to rear up. That person is here to help us work through those childhood issues.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cOnce our youngest child left the house, then it all slowed down and it became more apparent to me that I needed to figure out this \u2018feeling\u2019 thing.\u201d - Graham Chalfant
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\u201cI learned I could just sit with it and in 30 seconds, that heaviness would literally melt away.\u201d - Graham Chalfant
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\u201cEverybody has the ability to feel emotions. At some point along our life journey, we turn them off and turn them down.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cWhen you feel an emotion without building a story around it, the emotion goes through you in 90 seconds.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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Resources
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Episode #42: Inviting Your Relationship into The Adult Chair with Michelle and Graham Chalfant
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Episode #49: Am I Fraud? Imposter Syndrome & You!
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/49-am-i-a-fraud-imposter-syndrome-you/
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P&G Hair Food
Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart
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The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston
New Dates: September 16-18, 2021
https://theadultchair.com/charleston/
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More Adult Chair
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The Adult Chair Website
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The Adult Chair Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
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The Adult Chair Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events/
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The Adult Chair Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
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TAC Circles
https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/
(Previously \u201cTAC Gatherings\u201d)
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Stay Connected
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/
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The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant
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