249: The Power of Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff
Compassion is something we have when we live in our healthiest Adult self, but how easy is it for you to turn around and offer that compassion to yourself? Most of us speak very differently to ourselves than we would to a friend, especially when we make a mistake or are going through a hard time.
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But self-compassion is an essential part of healing! In fact, studies show that truly effective therapy is improved by increasing our self-compassion so we can live with more love and less anxiety and stress.
My guest today, Dr. Kristin Neff, is one of the world\u2019s leading self-compassion experts and one of the first to conduct scientific research on the benefits of self-compassion and how it can change your life. I LOVED our conversation, which covers everything from what self-compassion is and how to cultivate it to the inner critic, anger, gender roles and the way society often makes it difficult to cultivate self-compassion.
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Listen to discover:
- What self compassion really is
- The three core components of self-compassion
- Emotional and behavioral self-compassion practices
- Why self-compassion is not selfish
- When anger is constructive and loving
- Why self-compassion is essential for overcoming depression, anxiety and stress
Self-compassion is not selfish. In fact, studies show that when we show ourselves compassion, it actually increases our compassion for others! Life is messy and none of us is perfect, which is why approaching the journey \u2014 both ours and others\u2019 \u2014 with gentleness and kindness is so important to being healthy!
\u201cThe biggest problem with self-esteem is it\u2019s contingent on success.\u201d - Dr. Kristin Neff
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\u201cThe word \u2018compassion\u2019 by definition is a connected stance.\u201d - Dr. Kristin Neff
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\u201cI know from practicing The Adult Chair, where we\u2019re mindful, we practice self-compassion, we\u2019re living in the moment, we\u2019re tuning into the moment...it gets easier.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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\u201cWhat reminds you to practice self-compassion is your suffering.\u201d - Dr. Kristin Neff
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\u201cI really changed myself through self-compassion.\u201d - Michelle Chalfant
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Resources
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Dr. Kristin Neff Website
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\u201cFierce Self-Compassion\u201d (Kristin Neff Book - Pre-Order)
https://www.amazon.com/Fierce-Self-Compassion-Harness-Kindness-Thrive/dp/006299106X
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