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"Consider fictional Carol, who has convinced herself that she doesn\'t need to worry about the suffering of people who live far away. She works to improve her local community, and donates to her local church. She\'s a kind and loving woman, and she does her part, and (she reasons) that\'s all anyone can be expected to do.
\\nNow consider fictional Dave, who failed a job interview. When telling his friends the story, he emphasizes how the interviewers were biased against him, and how they asked stupid questions.
\\nMeanwhile, driven by hunger, a fox tries to reach some grapes hanging high on the vine but is unable to, although he leaps with all his strength. As he goes away, he remarks "Oh, you aren\'t even ripe yet! I don\'t need any sour grapes."
\\nAll of these reactions \\u2014 and many others \\u2014 share a common kernel. Carol, Dave, and the fox are all inventing reasons why an unpleasant state of affairs is acceptable. They\'re not inventing reasons why the world is good, by any means; but they are putting forth cognitive effort to make it seem tolerable."
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\\nOriginal post: http://mindingourway.com/see-the-dark-world/
\\nAllegory of the Dragon: https://anchor.fm/guilt/episodes/23-The-value-of-a-life-eja6s1
\\nRemember the litany of Gendlin.
\\nSee also: leaving yourself a line of retreat.
\\nFind Nate Soares at http://mindingourway.com
\\nFind Gianluca Truda at http://gianlucatruda.com
\\nReplacing Guilt is written by Nate Soares and produced, with permission, by Gianluca Truda. The theme music is a remix of Algorithms by Chad Crouch.
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