24 See the dark world

Published: Sept. 15, 2020, 6 a.m.

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"Consider fictional Carol, who has convinced herself that she doesn\'t  need to worry  about the suffering of people who live far away. She  works to improve her local community, and donates to her local church.  She\'s a kind and loving woman, and she does her part, and (she reasons)  that\'s all anyone can be expected to do.

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Now consider fictional Dave, who failed a job interview. When telling  his friends the story, he emphasizes how the interviewers were biased  against him, and how they asked stupid questions.

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Meanwhile, driven by hunger, a fox tries to reach some grapes hanging  high on the vine but is unable to, although he leaps with all his  strength. As he goes away, he remarks "Oh, you aren\'t even ripe yet! I don\'t need any sour grapes."

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All of these reactions \\u2014 and many others \\u2014 share a common kernel.  Carol, Dave, and the fox are all inventing reasons why an unpleasant  state of affairs is acceptable. They\'re not inventing reasons why the  world is good, by any means; but they are putting forth cognitive effort to make it seem tolerable."

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Original post: http://mindingourway.com/see-the-dark-world/

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Allegory of the Dragon: https://anchor.fm/guilt/episodes/23-The-value-of-a-life-eja6s1

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Remember the litany of Gendlin.

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See also: leaving yourself a line of retreat.

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Find Nate Soares at http://mindingourway.com

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Find Gianluca Truda at http://gianlucatruda.com

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Replacing Guilt is written by Nate Soares and produced, with permission, by Gianluca Truda. The theme music is a remix of Algorithms by Chad Crouch.

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