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Published: Sept. 12, 2022, 3:38 p.m.

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Years ago, before I found life coaching, I was a crossfit coach.  Totally different worlds of coaching.  But I was still me in both scenes.

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At the first gym I coached for, one of the gym owners wasn\\u2019t too thrilled to have me on the team.  And I felt pretty insecure.  I like to be liked (who doesn\\u2019t).  But ultimately, I wanted the outside validation that I was a good coach, because I really put my heart into my classes.

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After a couple years, my family moved to Arkansas and I got a coaching gig in our new city.  And in the back of my mind, as much as I missed my classes in Utah, I wondered if they were glad to have a new coach now.  Perhaps one that was a little more competitive, one that was more athletic, one that fit the crossfit coach mold better.

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But to my astonishment, many of the members that attended my classes regularly reached out to me, and expressed how much they missed not just me and our friendship, but they missed my style of coaching.

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I got feedback on how much they had progressed because of the way I had taught them and ran my class.

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Now I don\\u2019t say this to brag.

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But rather to illustrate, that we never really know what kind of impact we\\u2019re having.

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The exact thing that I thought I was doing \\u201cwrong\\u201d or not good enough, was exactly what someone else needed and loved.

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They needed me and my unique style.

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It was imperfectly perfect.

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At the retreat, we did an activity called Mirror work, which is literally just sitting in front of a mirror, looking into your own eyes, sit and stare, then write what you see.

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When it was my turn, I looked into my eyes expecting some kind of cool revelation speak to me, but instead I just saw my eyes.  Literally just my eyes.

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I saw the color, which I\\u2019ve always liked, but what I really noticed was that my eyes are offset and they are actually asymmetrical.

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One is bigger than the other.

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And in that moment, it didn\\u2019t bother me at all, because at the same time, that I saw my asymmetrical, offset eyes, I also saw light reflecting in my eyes and it looked like stars.

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And again I thought, I am totally imperfect.

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And that\\u2019s just perfect.

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The original definition of perfect is simply whole, or complete, not lacking.

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My eyes are not lacking, I have two of them, they work -> I can see,

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my face is complete.

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There is no rule that it needs to be symmetrical,

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no rule that eyes need to be the same size, shape or even color.

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They just maybe typically are.  Or we think they are.

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But what is, just the way it is, is perfect.  It is complete.  It is the way it\\u2019s supposed to be.

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We are all asymmetrical in some way.

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We all carry insecurities.

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We\\u2019re a little offset somewhere

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But the way you are.  Is exactly the way that you need to be.

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I\\u2019m guessing that there is something that you think you are doing \\u201cwrong\\u201d, or not good enough, is exactly what someone else needs and loves, or will truly appreciate one day.

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Your unique style is needed and

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Imperfectly Perfect.

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This week, find your thing - the one that you may be insecure about, but is exactly the way it needs to be, maybe because your way is blessing someone else, or because your way just is being effective.

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I want you to find it, and journal about your imperfect perfection.

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My friends, Be watchful and stay curious.

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