EP 88: Getting Unstuck and Over Feeling Lost with Lena
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This episode is about getting over feeling lost, and getting yourself unstuck. During the coaching session with Lena, we uncover some past trauma and guilt which is causing her to feel as if she is living in a black hole.
[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode88]
If you can identify with Lena and are feeling stuck yourself, know that you are headed in the right direction towards getting yourself unstuck. Some people just go through life just going through the motions, and not being inspired. If you are aware of it, you are more likely to discover the trigger, and move past it.
If you are a coach, take note of the question I asked Lena when she said she had been doing some personal growth work. Find out what your client\\u2019s awareness level is, by asking them what personal growth work they have been doing. This helps you avoid telling them something they already know.
Also, notice how I reacted when she told me she had cheated, in contrast to my reaction when she divulged the traumatic experience with her father. I acknowledged Lena for her vulnerability, and responded neutrally to the incident, because she already felt shame around it. But, my response to her traumatic experience let her know it was a big deal, and was the cause of her feeling lost.
When something traumatic or scary happens, we go into survival mode and we disconnect. We suppress the emotional response because we didn\\u2019t know how to deal with it. I recommended Lena look into Somatic therapy to help her overcome her past trauma.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
\\u25cf Do you feel lost, stuck, or just blah?
\\u25cf Is there a situation from your past you haven\\u2019t fully processed? Maybe you hoped \\xa0 \\xa0time would heal the wound, but you never really dealt with the issue.
\\u25cf Are you questioning a relationship you are currently in?
Lena\'s Question:
Lena wants to know how to get out of her \\u201cblack hole,\\u201d and get unstuck from her current feelings of discomfort.
Lena\'s Key Insights and Ahas:
\\u25cf She was scared by the actions of her father, and felt he turned his back on her.
\\u25cf She feels guilty about the breakup with her ex-boyfriend.
\\u25cf She suppressed her feelings of trauma, fear, and guilt.
\\u25cf She has lost herself.
\\u25cf She doesn\\u2019t want to be in her current relationship.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
\\u25cf She should work with a Somatic therapist to deal with her trauma.
\\u25cf She should stop compromising in her current relationship and show up authentically.
Takeaways:
\\u25cf Is there anything you haven\\u2019t forgiven yourself for, or a reason you may be punishing yourself? Where do you think you did something wrong? Why do you think you can\\u2019t have what you want?
\\u25cf Get Expectation Hangover and do the Release Writing or Temper Tantrum techniques to help you get unstuck.
\\u25cf Google Somatic Therapy to learn more about it. It may be helpful in your getting over a trauma from the past.
Resources:
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
Inner Circle Membership Community
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