EP 367: Should I Stay in the Relationship for the Baby? With Cassie
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This episode is about navigating a relationship with a new baby coming. Today\\u2019s caller, Cassie, is about to have a child but is uncertain about staying with the baby\\u2019s father. She would like guidance about how to feel supported emotionally and financially during this trying time.
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[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode367]
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It is difficult enough for women who are becoming new mothers but for them to not have support can be really challenging. But, on the other hand, couples who stay together for the children who are not in a healthy relationship don\\u2019t have kids that turn out any better than the kids whose parents got divorced. Kids pick up on unhealthy relationships when they are not aligned and may model their future relationships on them.
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When a baby comes, it transforms and changes a relationship. The focus of attention is on the baby and not as much on the partners. That is why it is important to have clear agreements in place about parenting responsibilities before a child is born.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Are you in a relationship and you don\\u2019t know whether to stay or go?
- Do you have children and you are concerned the relationship isn\\u2019t a fit and you don\\u2019t know if you should stay in it for the children?
- Do you feel your partner isn\\u2019t holding up their end of the agreement? financially, personal development, or any other way?
- Do you have clear agreements with your partner so each of you knows what you can expect and count on from each other to prevent expectation hangovers?
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Cassie\\u2019s Question:
Cassie is pregnant with her partner of 2-plus years. She is having some difficulty in her relationship and would like guidance on whether or not to leave the relationship.
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Cassie\\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
- She is seven months pregnant.
- Her pregnancy has highlighted some of her fears about her relationship.
- She is unsure if her intuition is telling her to step away from the relationship.
- She is excited about becoming a mother.
- She and her partner have different values around money.
- She is confused about her next steps.
- Her partner wants to be in the relationship.
- Her partner recently left his career.
- She feels emotionally distressed from their disagreements.
- She wants her partner to monetarily provide for the family.
- She is not yet sure about what agreements she will need to clarify.
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
- Get clear agreements from her partner about the upcoming parenting responsibilities.
- Consider how she can respond to his requests without anger or resentment.
- Recognize that she is a co-parent with her partner.
- Appeal to her partner\\u2019s heart about the parenting and healing opportunity.
- Pay attention to the things she appreciates and loves about her partner.
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Resources:
Christine Hassler \\u2014 Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
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@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
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Jill@ChristineHassler.com \\u2014 For information on any of my services
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