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This episode is about holding space for our partners. Today\\u2019s caller, Brandon, would like guidance on how to be in the healthy space of masculine and feminine presence. It is a lovely conversation about integration and holding space when you get to a place where you feel wonderful, but your partner isn\\u2019t quite there.
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[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode294]
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When someone comes to us and vents, there is a desire to want to fix whatever it is. The masculine tends to want to fix. The feminine tends to want to take it on and over-empathize into sympathy or go into a caretaker role. We all have masculine and feminine energetics inside of us.
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Underneath any upset is an unmet need. When we can find the need in an argument or a trigger inside ourselves, we can begin to deal with the true trigger. When we are trying to ease the trigger with talk or action, it usually doesn\\u2019t work because we are not reaching the unmet need.
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Remember, everyone is on their own path. When one person gets to a place of feeling evolved like they\\u2019ve \\u201cgot it\\u201d in some ways they want the other person to join them. And, wanting someone you care about to grow and evolve is great. However, judgment can creep in. When we grow and we have awareness we can get on a spiritual or personal growth soapbox. It can be unconscious, or subtle, but the other person can feel judged. The other person can feel pressure.
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When you get triggered, ask yourself if your masculine comes out or your feminine. Or, can you be in the healthy space of masculine and feminine presence, where the masculine part of you welcomes it, holds space, and asks it what it needs and the feminine part has massive compassion and nurtures you?
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Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11\\u201213, 2021. It will be recorded if you can\\u2019t make it live. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things. Couples and singles are welcome.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
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Brandon\\u2019s Question:
Brandon would like assistance with integrating some learnings into his relationship.
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Brandon\\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
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Takeaways:
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Resources:
Christine Hassler \\u2014 Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Assist@ChristineHassler.com \\u2014 Males who want to be on the show\\xa0
Jill@ChristineHassler.com \\u2014 For information on any of my services.
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