EP 272: How to Trust Again with Michelle
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This call is about recognizing competing intentions and forgiveness. Today\\u2019s caller, Michelle, is facing challenges when calling in a partner, her person, someone to share her life with. A childhood wound regarding trust keeps repeating because she has not healed it yet. Even if you are not single, this call has something in it for you. We work through blocks when it comes to trusting people, and competing intentions.
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[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode272]
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When we have competing intentions, we have a longing and a desire. Yet, we also have protective strategies of \\u201cI may get hurt.\\u201d It is the intention that is keeping you protected that will win. This is why we feel like we are sabotaging ourselves. We keep repeating the same pattern over and over again.
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The angrier we are, the better we are at protecting ourselves. The more we keep the wall up. Remember, when we forgive, it\\u2019s not about condoning actions or forgiving the actions that hurt us. It is about forgiving the misunderstandings and misperceptions and misbeliefs we bought into, based on what happened.
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The power of your desire, the power of what you want IS powerful. Don\'t think it cannot bring you what you want. You have to look at what is blocking it. One of the best ways we can protect ourselves from future hurts is to heal our past hurts.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Do you have a similar expectation hangover happening repeatedly?
- Are you aware of a childhood wound and know it impacts your life, but you can\\u2019t seem to shift it?
- Are you single and want to be with a partner, your person, especially, after this challenging year?
- Do you have trouble trusting people, especially when it comes to the opposite sex?
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Michelle\\u2019s Question:
Michelle wants to find someone to share her life with, her person.
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Michelle\\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
- Her brother passed away unexpectedly.
- She is the youngest of five children from a big family.
- She\\u2019s never been married but wants to find someone to share life with.
- She has a broken heart about her family breaking up.
- Her father left her mother for another woman.
- She believes she can\\u2019t trust people and attracts men she can\\u2019t trust.
- She has put up a wall around her heart.
- She may have low self-worth and a rough inner critic.
- She has been in therapy.
- She has competing intentions.
- She is angry and feels she needs to protect herself.
- Her feminine desire is being blocked by masculine anger.
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
- Find a way to protect herself in a healthy way.
- Speak with her younger self about releasing her anger.
- Realize she doesn\\u2019t have to trust every person, just one who is worthy.
- Forgive herself for what she made her father\\u2019s actions mean.
- Reparent herself by acknowledging her father isn\\u2019t representative of all men.
- Start trusting herself.
- Believe she can have a healthy, happy relationship.
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Takeaways:
- Consider what your competing intentions are. Is there something you want in your life but what is the protective block you have that is keeping you from getting it?
- Get to the source of your issue.
- Remember, with forgiveness, you are not forgiving the actions, you are forgiving the misunderstandings and limiting beliefs you bought into, based on the action.
- If today\'s episode resonated with you, re-listen to it. If you want to apply to the Be the Queen program in January, go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen.
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Resources:
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Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
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