EP 265: Healing the Mother Wound with Megan
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This call is about treating ourselves with compassion, encouragement, and unconditional love when we have a mother wound. Today\\u2019s caller, Megan, believes people avoid her because she has too many problems. What we uncover during our session is that she has created a false independence because it is how she copes with having a neglectful mother.
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[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode265]
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When we don\\u2019t have anyone holding us, we hold things inside.
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The difference between being a victim with friends and being vulnerable is being a victim is always complaining about the same thing, never empowering yourself, and never doing anything differently. Being vulnerable is sharing what\\u2019s in your heart, and taking responsibility. It\\u2019s when you are not looking for a solution, not always complaining about the same thing but just having an open heart and being intentional about how you choose to shift it, even if it\\u2019s just being more compassionate with yourself. Victims don\\u2019t make too many friends unless they just hang out with other victims and they can all throw pity parties together. This doesn\\u2019t mean to not be vulnerable. You can be vulnerable without going into victim consciousness.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Do you feel like you are too much for people? Do you feel you lose friendships or people avoid you because your life is hard and you think that you are just too much?
- What events in your childhood are keeping you stuck?
- Do you have an attitude that nothing works out and things are hard?
- Did you have a mother who was not there for you or who neglected you, or who you were not enough for?
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Megan\\u2019s Question:
Megan feels she is too intense or too much for other people and would like guidance on how to break free of the pattern.
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Megan\\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
- People pull away or avoid her.
- She had three near-death experiences as a child.
- Her parents divorced.
- She feels isolated.
- She struggles with low self-worth.
- Her mother was neglectful in many forms.
- She is mothering herself the way she was mothered.
- She attracts emotionally unavailable people.
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
- Nourish her relationship with herself.
- Separate from her struggles to connect more deeply with herself.
- Communicate with an advisor or good friend.
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Takeaways:
- Do the hand exercise and give it a voice.
- Consider what you think of when you think of a \\u201cmother\\u201d and write out a list of the qualities that make an amazing, loving mother and integrate those qualities into your life.
- Work on being vulnerable and intimate with your friends.
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Resources:
Christine Hassler \\u2014 Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
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