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This call is about how fear of commitment may truly be fear of loss. Today\\u2019s caller, Rachel, is collecting evidence about why she doesn\\u2019t want to be in a relationship because it will be too much work even though she says she would like to have a relationship. We talk about how the losses she experienced as a child may be coloring her perception of what a relationship will be like and how interdependent relationships can help us heal.
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[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode264]
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People who felt very alone as children will lead a solitary life and think that it\\u2019s what they want because they want to avoid a wound about being lonely as a child. They stay in that energetic and continue living a lonely, solitary life because they don\\u2019t know any different. It keeps the old wound from coming up. It may not make a lot of logical sense but if you are someone who lives a solitary or lonely life, and you believe that you are an introvert and you like it better, is it really true? Or, is loneliness a wound from your childhood you are perpetuating in your adulthood?
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When we don\\u2019t have stability or structure in our life or childhood, things become overwhelming as an adult. It\\u2019s because there is still a traumatized child running the show. This is why having a lot going on, for someone who moved around a lot, had a parent that died, or didn\\u2019t have someone there to provide structure and stability, is hard. Just a few things can seem overwhelming.
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Until we do healing work, our perception is influenced by past wounding because we expect to see what we have seen in the past.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
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Rachel\\u2019s Question:
Rachel has experienced multiple losses and would like guidance on how to approach relationships in her life.
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Rachel\\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
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Takeaways:
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Resources:
Christine Hassler \\u2014 Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
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