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This call is about being able to meet your own needs. Today\\u2019s caller, Melissa, had a challenging childhood and is being triggered in her current relationship. She would like guidance on how to communicate her needs to her partner. We work through how her triggers are serving her and the expression of a need versus the expectation of a need to be filled by someone else.
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[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode261]
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We often choose spouses and relationship partners who help us heal unmet needs and wounds from our parents.
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As humans, on a metaphysical, even spiritual level, we need other people. And, we need people to meet certain needs. And, when we learn how to meet our needs ourselves we get better at communicating healthy needs to others.
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We live in an interdependent world, yet we are sovereign beings. This means we must take an inside-out approach. First, we have to be independent in fulfilling our own needs internally and not project them on others. When we understand how to communicate our needs, not from a needy place but a place of bonding in our relationships, we can then connect and express with others toward interdependence.
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There is the difference between being needy, or trying to get someone else to fill a need, and clearly expressing our needs to another person in a way that we can teach them how to meet it.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
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Melissa\\u2019s Question:
Melissa doesn\'t completely understand her needs and feelings. She wants guidance on how to recognize her boundaries and give herself what she needs when she is triggered.
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Melissa\\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
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Takeaways:
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