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This is a call about issue-based relationships. Today\\u2019s caller, Megan, is curious about whether she should go back to a relationship that is on a break. She wants to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship. I explain what an issue-based relationship is and give her some guidance about how to listen to her inner knowing.
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The five relationships are issue-based, journey mate, compatibility, fantasy, and side-by-side partnership. Not every relationship is made to last forever or should last forever. Different relationships come for different reasons and teach us different things. When we understand what type of relationship we have then it is a little bit easier to deal with.
An issue-based relationship is when our childhood wounds attract us to each other. We tend to date our unresolved issues from our childhood. Normally one person dumps feelings all over the other and the other person either dumps feelings back or tries to clean up the mess. They keep triggering each other and playing out patterns. When couples go to couple\\u2019s counseling it doesn\\u2019t really work because they keep trying to work on the relationship but they should be working on their own issues. It\\u2019s like two people who speak totally different languages and you are trying to teach them how to speak a third language.
For people in issue-based relationships, I recommend taking a break and separating, working on themselves, and then re-evaluating the relationship. By then they may decide the relationship is not what they want or they get back together.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Megan\\u2019s Question:
Megan would like to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship.
Megan\\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
How to Get Over It and On With It:
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Resources:
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