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Are you hard on yourself, especially when it comes to your appearance? Do you do something, and then immediately wish you had done it differently? Many of us allow our inner critics to expend energy on low-frequency, physically exhausting, nasty, self-defeating self-talk. You may not realize it, but your self-talk influences the way other people receive you. If you are happy and filled with self-acceptance, you send out a good vibe. If you are negative or hard on yourself, you can suck the life right out of the room. Today\\u2019s caller, Gabby, is struggling with her weight and self-worth. She is clinging to the away-from-motivation of \\u2018if only I this,\\u2019 and \\u2018if only I that,\\u2019 instead of using toward-motivation, to get what she really wants. During the call, Gabby\\u2019s energy shifts as soon as we discuss creativity and connection. This toward-motivation practice allows her to focus her energy on what she wants to bring into her life, instead of what she wants to move away from. This practice is sustainable, because she is focusing her energy on a positive outcome instead of a negative one. Obsessing about appearance and weight is a waste of energy. If weight is something you struggle with read my book, Expectation Hangover, and: \\u25cf Find a new way to soothe yourself. \\u25cf Get a new way to feed your soul. \\u25cf Commit and take actions towards your commitments. \\u25cf Stop making your weight mean something negative about you. You are enough. You are lovable. You can change and heal anything in your life. \\xa0 Consider/Ask Yourself: \\u25cf Are you making your self-worth and acceptance conditional? \\u25cf Do you struggle with body image issues? Has losing weight been a constant theme in your life? \\u25cf Does fear of rejection haunt you? Does it keep you from taking risks? \\u25cf What are the sneaky ways you\'re being selfish in your life? \\xa0 Gabby\'s Question: Gabby has felt rejected a lot lately and would like to know how she can not worry so much about what others think. \\xa0 Gabby\'s Key Insights and Aha\\u2019s: \\u25cf She feels undesirable and fears she is not good enough. \\u25cf She has body image issues. \\u25cf Food is her only source of pleasure. \\u25cf She is self-obsessed. \\u25cf She is jeopardizing her relationships by making everything about her. \\u25cf She may be attracting rejection into her life when she does, because of her self-rejection. \\u25cf She hasn\\u2019t asked God to love and support her in dealing with her issue. \\xa0 How to Get Over It and On With It: \\u25cf She should stop waiting for external validation to find her confidence. \\u25cf She should realize she is not alone in how she feels. \\u25cf She should create a joy and creativity plan for herself. \\u25cf She should be present, curious, and connected in an authentic way. \\u25cf She could ask God for assistance in letting go of her obsession with her weight. \\xa0 Assignments and Takeaways: \\u25cf If there is something you want to shift in your life, make a list of your \\u2018toward\\u2019 motivations. \\u25cf Make a list of what you are committed to, and get an accountability partner. \\u25cf Take on a role to shift your confidence, and change the way you see yourself. \\u25cf Pray for help with your growth. Ask for help in making the shifts in knowing who you truly are. \\xa0 Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. \\xa0 Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Over It and On With It Initial Podcast Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler