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Let\\u2019s talk about finding the \\u201cone\\u201d. You know the magical person who is your soulmate, your other half, the one who completes you. I say these things with a tinge of sarcasm but I don\\u2019t inject the sarcasm because I am jaded or don\\u2019t believe in love, it\\u2019s there because of the misunderstandings regarding soulmates and the pain many of us go through when it comes to romantic relationships. I believe there are lots of \\u201cones\\u201d out there for us. My definition of a soulmate is someone who helps our soul to grow. Sometimes it\\u2019s through a gut-wrenching break-up, sometimes it\\u2019s through dating someone who triggers us and sometimes it\\u2019s through someone who just comes in, loves us and holds up a beautiful mirror to\\xa0 remind us of who we truly are.\\xa0 Soulmates can be romantic partners, friends, colleagues and even someone you share a plane ride with once and never see again. \\xa0 So, why are many romantic relationships so painful? 1. The relationships are mirrors which can trigger unresolved issues from our childhood. 2. We often look to a romantic partner to fill our needs that our parents did not meet. This doesn\\u2019t attract the best people to us. 3. We may want a relationship so badly to fill our voids or make us feel less alone that we move into a fantasy-based relationship. \\xa0 Today\\u2019s call with Michael is a beautiful example of masculine vulnerability and strength. He finds himself dating from a place of pain rather than from love. He wants to move past the feeling that he needs to prove himself to women. Michael\\u2019s mother wasn\\u2019t really there for him and so he ends up with women who don\\u2019t treat him well and who are not really there for him. This is the problem with trying to fill a void left by a parent through dating. We long so badly for the love of a parent that we attract someone just like them, which re-opens our unhealed wounds. We have to bring love and forgiveness to those places inside and fill ourselves with our own loving acceptance. It\\u2019s time to let go of our fears about rejection, abandonment and getting hurt.\\xa0 I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. I also invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. \\xa0 Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you longing for a soulmate so much that it is causing you to suffer? Do you keep dating the same person but they have a different face? Could issues from your childhood influence who and how you are dating? Are you in a fantasy based relationship? Could it be time to remove your rose-colored glasses? \\xa0 Michael\'s Question: Michael wants to know how to move past the pain of a previous relationship and how to know when the person he is dating is the right one. \\xa0 Michael\'s Key Insights and Aha\\u2019s: He is trying to heal a core wound from his childhood through a romantic relationship He is putting a lot of pressure on the women he dates He realizes he keeps running back to fix past relationships He carries fear and his unanswered questions around with him He feels unworthy and feels he needs to prove himself to women His strength is in his vulnerability, his honesty and his courage \\xa0 How to get over it and on with it: He should forgive the misunderstanding that he is unlovable or anything in his past was his fault He needs to re-parent his younger self in a way he always longed for\\xa0 He needs to take a dating hiatus\\xa0 \\xa0 Assignments and Takeaways: Is there a little boy or girl inside of you that has some misunderstandings which really need to be healed? Could it be time to end or transform your fantasy-based or issue-based relationship? Perhaps it\\u2019s time for a dating hiatus and taking some time to date yourself.\\xa0 \\xa0 Fall back in love with yourself and realize just how lovable you are. \\xa0 Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. \\xa0 Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com