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Most of you can relate to feeling a bit nervous or awkward at times. Maybe it\\u2019s around someone you are crushing on, when you have to speak in front of your boss or even when you are attempting to be cool with your teenage kids.\\xa0 Feeling self-conscious is the worst. And not just because of the knots in your stomach, the sweating, the saying of the things we judge as totally lame right after they come out of our mouth. What is worse is that we are not showing up as fully ourselves. Whenever we are openly attached to hoping someone else likes us or accepts us, we often do the exact opposite of what we need to do in that moment. We judge ourselves rather than accept ourselves. Then we show up in ways that are not authentic to who we are and that is awkward and uncomfortable. Attachment is thinking we need to be a certain way to get what we want from another person. We put on masks, we judge ourselves and we edit everything that comes out of our mouth. The higher the emotional stakes are the more suppressed we can become. In today\\u2019s coaching session with Kristen, we explore why she is not fully herself in romantic relationships. Self-consciousness is not just painful to feel, it also doesn\\u2019t bring us the connections we long for.\\xa0 First, it\\u2019s all about what you are telling yourself inside your head. Second, you start future tripping which detaches you from your intuition. Finally, being attached to the outcome, you are trying to adapt to who you think you need to be rather than just being you. The cure for self-consciousness is radical self-acceptance. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali, which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. And, consider my Secret Sauce event for people who want to uncover their unique secret sauce and uplevel their business, start a new business or make a career transition. \\xa0 Consider/Ask Yourself: \\u25cf What situations do you feel self-conscious in? \\u25cf What do you really want when interacting with others? Validation, to be liked? \\u25cf Is there a parent or someone else you may be expecting to get nachos from when they are really a Chinese restaurant? \\u25cf Are you truly showing up in a way for others that you expect others to show up for you? \\xa0 Kristen\'s Question: Kristen would like to know why she finds it hard to be herself around a guy she is attracted to. \\xa0 Kristen\'s Key Insights and Aha\\u2019s: \\u25cf She is still angry over her father\\u2019s aloofness \\u25cf A father is the first male relationship a girl has \\u25cf She may be looking for acceptance and validation when dating \\u25cf Anger and judgment do not help any situation \\u25cf She should establish intimacy and trust with her dad \\xa0 How to get over it and on with it: \\u25cf She\\u2019s free to be whomever she wants to be \\u25cf She should share her needs with her father \\u25cf She needs to accept people as they are if she wants to be accepted for who she is \\u25cf She is responsible for her own needs right now \\xa0 Tools and Takeaways: \\u25cf Look at where your self-consciousness comes from and practice being in the present moment. \\u25cf Unresolved issues with parents can be better understood in episode #16, Why Our Parents Trigger Us So Much. \\u25cf Practice being your most authentic, quirky, nerdy self! Whoever you are, let people see you! And, see yourself through the eyes of love.\\xa0 \\xa0 Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). \\xa0 Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Secret Sauce Mastermind