09: Getting Over Loss
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This episode will support you in getting through and to the other side of any kind of loss. My coaching call with Regina today uncovers the challenges she is having with grief over the loss of her husband. She says she regrets not being the best mother in the world and not living the life she wanted to live. She\\u2019s is questioning her purpose and experiencing quite a bit of apathy in her life.
Regina experiences an \\u201caha\\u201d when she realizes she is able to create the positive future she desires.
Take note of Regina\\u2019s tone of voice before my coaching as she describes beating herself up and then again after we discuss her ability to practice self-love.
Regina shared her progress with me in an email after our session. She writes \\u201cI\\u2019ve started forgiving myself and when I find myself in a negative thought I stop and think \\u201cthis isn\\u2019t self-love\\u201d.
It\\u2019s a reminder to all of us to live, not just exist. Find something you want to live for, even it seems silly and give yourself permission to love.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
Have you recently been through a loss and can\\u2019t seem to move on?
Have you been through a loss and are aware you need time to grieve?
Do you tend to look back on your life and wish you could have done things differently?
Are you at a point in your life where you are just existing and need to start living again?
Regina\\u2019s Question:
Regina would like to move past her sadness and regret of not living the life she wanted.
Regina\\u2019s Key Insights and Aha\\u2019s:
\\u25cf There is a part of her that doesn\\u2019t want to \\u201cbe\\u201d anymore
\\u25cf She doesn\\u2019t believe we get more than one love in our lives
\\u25cf She beats herself up a lot
\\u25cf She knows if she could create a negative story for herself she is capable of creating a positive story too
How to get over it and on with it:
\\u25cf Make a choice to start creating a future which is enlivening
\\u25cf Give yourself permission to live
\\u25cf Speak to yourself like a loving mother would to a child
\\u25cf Write out some promises you will keep to yourself
Tools and Takeaways:
\\u25cf Practice self-love
\\u25cf Consider that loved ones who have transitioned are angels and guides in your life
\\u25cf Accept that you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time
Resources:
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