06: You Have an Expectation Hangover, Now What?
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This call is for all you do-ers and over-achievers out there.
We find ourselves in a time in which we wear our busyness like a badge of honor. We define ourselves by what we do. And when something we define ourselves by, such as a job, goes away we find ourselves with an Expectation Hangover.
An Expectation Hangover is disappointment. It\\u2019s when one of three things happen:
1.) Something doesn\\u2019t turn out like we planned
2.) Something does turn out like we planned, but we don\\u2019t get the feeling we thought we would have
3.) Life just throws us an unexpected curveball
My coaching session with Lisa today uncovers her Expectation Hangover as a huge opportunity for her to just be.
If you would like coaching from me in an upcoming episode, contact me at christinehassler.com
Consider/Ask Yourself:
Can you relate to being busy all the time?
Do you often use busyness as a distraction?
Do you panic during times when you aren\\u2019t busy?
Do you have a busy life, but not a fulfilled life?
Is it challenging to receive loving support, including financial support from a family member?
Are you paying attention to all the things which are going right for you when you experience an expectation hangover?
Lisa\\u2019s Question:
Lisa feels she has accomplished a great deal this year. She completed her MBA, got married and will soon be moving to a new city. During her job search, she is encountering some rejection and the disappointment that goes along with it.
Lisa\\u2019s Key Insights and Aha\\u2019s:
\\u25cf She kept herself busy as a distraction
\\u25cf She relies on herself too much
\\u25cf She doesn\\u2019t have to handle so many things on her own
\\u25cf She has her worthiness attached to having a job
How to get over it and on with it:
\\u25cf Ask yourself what am I learning during this expectation hangover?
\\u25cf Surround yourself with your soul friends and family
\\u25cf Give yourself full permission to relax and let go
\\u25cf Break up with the idea that you are what you do
\\u25cf Press pause on the goal line and re-orient yourself to the soul line
Tools and Takeaways:
\\u25cf Give yourself permission to stop chasing results
\\u25cf Get a copy of Expectation Hangover and work through the exercises and guided meditations
\\u25cf Ask someone for support
\\u25cf Take some quiet time for yourself
\\u25cf Make an agreement with yourself to just be
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