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b'\\u201cWhen people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.\\u201d\\n\\u2015 Ernest Hemingway\\nRecently, I created a post about listening (https://hughballou.com/podcast-57-leadership-skills-listening/). As a musician, I have learned to listen, however there is listening, and there is listening with intention. We often listen without really listening for intent. We listen to form our response, or prejudge the content, or prejudge the context, reason, or content of the person talking.\\nFor the musical conductor, there are many layers of listening. What we listen for includes the following:\\n\\n* Balance\\n* Correct notes\\n* Intonation\\n* Blend (especially in choral music)\\n* Phrasing\\n* Articulation\\n* Emotion relevant to the score\\n* Dynamics\\n* Tempo consistency\\n* Tone quality\\n\\nAnd that\\u2019s not the full list. Conductors listen to multiple layers simultaneously. Some choral conductors sing along with\\xa0the choir. I\\u2019m not sure what their logic is, but it\\u2019s not possible for me to sing and listen at the same time. My singing blocks my ability to listen.\\nI remember talking to someone and thinking that they were not really listening. They were formulating their response while I was talking. Therefore, they could not fully respond to the content or context of what I was saying.\\nI have also\\xa0experienced\\xa0the\\xa0overtaking\\xa0leader. Sometimes\\xa0overtaking\\xa0is a sign of anxiety, if the leader is afraid of the\\xa0comments they anticipate will be critical, rather than listening for a perspective that they might not have considered. In this instance, and many others, the leader actually blocks receiving information that could be helpful.\\nGathering information, gaining perspective, and testing assumptions are all a part of an effective decision making process. Making good decisions requires having good\\xa0information.\\xa0Overtaking, not listening, multi-tasking, and cutting people off\\xa0before they are finished, are all barriers to effective leadership. Listening is\\xa0essential to being an effective leader.\\nWe are all guilty of underperforming by compromised listening.\\nBy the way, silence after listening to the\\xa0other person indicates that you were listening with intention and gives you time to process the information.\\nLeadership begins with changing self.\\nMen are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound.\\n- James Allen\\n\\xa0\\n\\nHugh Ballou\\nThe Transformational Leadership Strategist TM\\nSubscribe to The Transformational Leadership Strategist by Email (http://feedburner.google.com/fb/a/mailverify?uri=TheTransformationalStrategist&loc=en_US)\\n\\n(c)\\xa02015 Hugh Ballou. All rights reserved.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'