From Fans to Haters & Embracing a New You
You probably never expected to have a hate club. But now that you’ve started working on yourself, started growing, changing, releasing negative energy, and being the real you...well, there are bound to be some people who aren’t thrilled about changes.
This is the not-fun part of self-growth. But it’s normal and to be expected when you’re experiencing breakthroughs, growth, and change.
The people in our sphere almost always align with us. For instance, if we have a glass-half-empty mindset, those around us are going to confirm that negative attitude. If we’re into complaining about our spouses, guess what the people we keep company with will enjoy doing? You get the idea.
When we begin to change and leave our old patterns behind, our old sphere of friends are left wondering what happened to us. The old negative attitude turned sunny. Instead of participating in the gossip, we’re pushing back, defending the absent third-party.
Old friends are wondering, “Who does he think he is?”
“What’s gotten into her? It’s probably just a phase...”
Little do they know…
As a result, some who drop out of your life on their own. They’ll just lose interest and move on.
Then, there will be others who you’ll need to let go. They’re the ones who will never embrace the new you, and continuing to give them your time and energy will only bring you down. You’ll need to be the one doing the moving away -- but only after you’ve reached a place of logical neutrality regarding the relationship.
Finally, there are others, those closest and dearest to us, with whom it’s worth being extra patient. Change is hard and scary, so be patient and don’t give up too easily. With kindness and a bit of nurturing, some will embrace and delight in the new you...and might even have a breakthrough of their own.
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