NLP is all about learning how to control your state intentionally. The tricky thing about negative emotions is that they’re more automatic and more powerful than positive ones, so we have to work more to get into and maintain positive states.
Just like a puppy, the unconscious mind requires training.
One of my clients had a breakthrough recently. She’d been “doing the work,” which involves focusing on what she wants, listening to hypnosis to stay relaxed, paying close attention to her current state, and intentionally making shifts when she wasn’t feeling so great.
She had a couple of weeks where she was just on fire — lots of energy, positivity, and fresh ideas. She felt great! Then, suddenly, she hit a slump.
She was feeling overwhelmed (a negative state) and wasn’t making the time for hypnosis. And then she had an in-your-face manifestation of her state — and it wasn’t pretty. She was convinced it came out of nowhere.
But it didn’t.
By the time you notice yourself feeling “off,” you’ve been off for a while.
And unless you can nip that negative state in the bud, your unconscious mind, because it loves to generalize and “cross-pollinate” from one sector of your life to the other, that negative state is will only multiply.
The unconscious mind’s cross-contextual nature explains why we shouldn’t view our lives’ different compartments in a vacuum.
Your relationships can and do impact your health. And your health can and does impact your business. And your business can and does impact your relationships.
Good news — when you gain ground in a seemingly isolated area, it will spill over into other areas as well. This is why when you work to improve your health, your business has a better chance to thrive, and when you intentionally focus on improving your relationships, your body can feel better and more energized.
And what does all of this have to do with managing your state? Because if you can manage your state, you're going to be able to manage your outcomes.
Here’s how to manage your state, even when you’re feeling short on time:
The golden nugget in all of this is to manage your state preemptively. Be in tune with yourself and be aware so that you can make those small yet significant shifts along the way.
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