Purposefully Selfish: 5 Steps to Deeper Presence with Harry Sherwood - Episode 246

Published: Jan. 27, 2022, 3:53 p.m.

Every human possesses the power to transform their consciousness and create significant life changes. Harry’s own journey has led him to develop a deep understanding and appreciation for human consciousness and its limitless potential. He shares his profound experiences and the many different ways to gain self-insight. It's fascinating to listen to Harry share with such nuance and compassion. It’s easy to tell how deep he understands these life-changing principles he lives by.

Harry put himself out there, stayed open, stayed true to himself, and in doing so has given us a gift.

Over the last decade, Harry Sherwood lived with and learned from many different masters, from monks, yogis, to professors, and psychologists. His well-traveled life story culminated into founding Consciously, where he helps people discover their truths and live from a place of self-awareness.

He believes that insight is the mechanism behind our mental, spiritual and interpretative framework, and as such has developed some perspective-shifting tools to achieve this.

Today he talks about self-inquiry and how it can transform your life.

It’s like a staircase to the art of true understanding. One of the many amazing practices Harry has created from his deeply personal experiences.

Take time and really listen to what he has to say about this. That 20-minute portion of the episode has so much potential to change anybody. We literally mention it in the episode! Take notes, think deeply about the principles, and allow them to take root in your being.

Harry shares different ways of looking at our life and existence, many that can transform any man into their truest version. He not only shares his principles on self-inquiry but also sets the foundations for transformation. We have a great talk about coping mechanisms and applying self-awareness to everything, from resistance to the imposter syndrome.

He even has a great point that imposter syndrome is good! There are many ‘good’ alternative perspectives that he shares, like being selfishly good and not being ready.

There is so much valuable insight here that you don’t want to miss.


In this episode, you will learn about

00:01:54 - Audit your inner circle

00:04:01 - Being purposefully selfish

00:07:44 - Harry’s turning point in life

00:11:43 - A deeply profound experience

00:15:11 - Being silent with ALL of yourself

00:17:38 - Breaking the cycle of avoidance

00:20:47 - Why do coping mechanisms exist?

00:23:56 - Building your self-awareness

00:25:40 - Does resistance compound?

00:26:40 - Neurological and developmental psychology

00:29:09 - Five steps of deeper presence

00:29:44 - Interpretative frameworks for survival

00:32:09 - What is our relationship to painful emotions

00:35:18 - The 4 life-changing steps of Self-inquiry

00:42:52 - Consciously checking out to recover

00:44:21 - The 5th step: All 4 not working? Get help

00:47:42 - Why do people resist self-improvement?

00:48:43 - Nature, nurture, and a third unknown

00:50:03 - Some people are not ready and that’s ok

00:51:22 - Rock bottom and what’s at stake

00:55:11 - Showing up and the WHY conversation

01:03:23 - Dealing with Imposter Syndrome

01:03:23 - Connecting with others


Connect with Harry Sherwood on:

Websites: https://consciously.org/


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Email: listeners@menonpurposepodcast.com

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