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Ingratiation: Make Others Feel Important

Ingratiation is gaining favor by deliberate effort. Ingratiation techniques can include compliments, flattery, and agreeableness. Ingratiation can also involve a special recognition of someone such as, "We don\'t usually do this, but in your case I\'m going to make an exception," or "I am personally going to take care of this matter and see that you get what you want." Many people consider ingratiation sucking up or brown-nosing, but it is an effective technique for making others more persuadable. The reason this strategy works is because The Law of Esteem increases likability and promotes an increase in their self-esteem

Research has demonstrated these conclusions about using ingratiation. In one study, "ingratiators" were perceived as more competent, motivated, and qualified for leadership positions by their supervisors.\\xa0 In another study, subordinates who used ingratiation developed an increased job satisfaction for themselves, their coworkers, and their supervisor.\\xa0 In yet another study, ingratiators enjoyed a 5 percent edge over noningratiators in earning more favorable job evaluations.\\xa0 Ingratiation works even when it is perceived as a deliberate effort to win someone over. Our esteem is so starved that we accept any flattery or praise we can get.\\xa0

Interesting Ingratiation Facts

\\u2022\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0 It is better to use one great effective ingratiation method, than lots of smaller ones or in other words, less is more.

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\\u2022\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0 Ingratiators will be judged more positively using opinion or compliments conformity by the prospect than by a bystander.

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\\u2022\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0 Ingratiation will always work better when we are using downward influence (coworker, employee, you are their manager)

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\\u2022\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0 When we are attempting upward influence. (boss, CEO, power player)\\xa0 Using apology, self- deprecation are more successful when you are persuading up or there is a large difference in status.\\xa0 Using favors or compliments have little effect.

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\\u2022\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0 When ingratiating someone and they know you have an ulterior motive and it is transparent it will likely fail and decrease their liking towards you.